I don't know what to do

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Registered: 12-26-2003
I don't know what to do
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Sun, 08-15-2004 - 9:41pm
You all, I was doing fine before he recently contacted me again. He was saying he was sorry for saying all of those hateful comments to me and he said he said it because he knew it would make me mad. Then he had the nerve to ask me for $950. He kept saying "please, just a little bit." Then I had the guts to tell him "I don't want you and I don't need you. You are abusive and need help, you keep lying to you and God is going to handle you, etc."

He then started saying even more hateful things, such as,....

-"That's why I live in a big house and you live in that little house"

-"I am rich, have a good job, have a nice car and I'm going to play football (mind you that he is a felon, is 23 years old, lives with his mom and she pays all of his bills).

-He was laughing and talking about how he used me and took all of my money and was saying "YOU GOT PLAYED."

-He also said he's going to Europe next year to play for the NFL Europe.

what did i ever do wrong. Why does he get all of these things but I am miserable and struggling?

Wednesday I am suppose to be leaving to bo back to school and Tuesday is my birthday. I'll be 20. Now I don't even want to go back to school because I'm just wasting my time.

I hate myself for giving him that money. I do good and don't use people or manipulate them.

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Registered: 08-18-2004
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 7:57am
I know EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL! Well my story was kinda diffrent then your, but anyway. I had a guy friend since I was in kindergarten, we secretly liked eachother. Throught 4th and 5th grade we werent in the same class. But until middle school in the 7th grade we were in the same homeroom! I was so happy! I liked him alot and we spent some much time together everyone thought we were a couple, we always denied it. Even though I liked it. And on Christmas he gave me a three pink stone neckalce (not real of course) and put it on me. There is a story in that but lets not go down that road. We got into fights often about real stupid things. Then one day, he was acting real strange after lunch, he wouldn't really talk to me, I would ask him why but he would just say " I really don't want to talk about." He eventually stoped talking to me and I stopped trying to ask why. He and his friend who he put againist me would laugh at me during classes, the teachers wouldnt know they didn't mean it in a could way beacause they alwasyed seen us together. And they would somtimes scream during classes to me (my name) Stop staring and laugh. Long and be hold I found out he wasnt talking to me, because he thought I was in love with him, and he thought I spread the roomers about me and him. After that I couldnt look at him, I couldnt even say his name. After a while I relized we werent gonna get back together after this again....its over.I always knew he was a player, and a lair and manipulater but I was so in love, I did not want to beleive it. SO THE WHOLE POINT OF THE STORY IS it may hurt but ya gotta let go.I mean I gotta manipulated by a guy who I thought I can really trust, and I hate my self for think he was the best a guy anyone can have. Next time when you meet some one and you see the red flag, stop and think to yourself about. Becauase if you Ignore it your gonna get burned girlfriend. Its gonna hurt for a while but as time goes on it will go away. And you WILL MEET SOMEONE NEW! I just meet a very goodlooking guy, and is sweet as pie.:) So if you have anymore questions ask me ok. GOOD LUCK!