I dont know what to do.

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Registered: 02-15-2008
I dont know what to do.
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Sat, 02-16-2008 - 3:05pm
My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and we have lived together for the last 6 months. The day before Valentines day he broke up with me and said that he needed his independence and space. He wanted to be able to go out and not have to worry about me and not have to wait for me to get home to have dinner and just go out on his own. He gave me the option of staying in our apartment and he would continue to pay rent or I could move back home. I chose to move back home and let him stay there. I have been sick for the last few years and he seems like maybe he cant handle my health problems and it stresses him out. I have spoken to him briefly and asked if he broke up with me cause he just doesn't love me anymore or cause he just really couldn't handle things. He said he wasn't sure and he just needed some time to think about things and he would call me when he was ready to talk. Of coarse today is his birthday and I have already told him Happy Birthday and he said thank you. I work with his father and he had told me that my boyfriend loves me but he just cant handle things right now... I love him and I am willing to do what it takes to make things work and he knows that. I just don't know how to handle the waiting period.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 1:59pm

Welcome to the board court_bee,


Sorry you are going through this.

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 2:00pm

Hey, really sorry your goin through such a hard time. It's totally unfair of your boyfriend to be putting you through this, although it does sound like he is genuinely trying not to hurt you. It sounds as though the relationship has moved too fast and no doubt he has been caught up and swept along by love and emotion and has just come back down to earth with a bang. It's not to say he doesn't love you or even that he can't see a future together. Maybe he feels like he just wants to regain a bit of his independence back and start living life for himself a bit more..

However, whatever issues he is going through, when he moved in with you, he did make a commitment to you and you have already both compromised by you moving out. So you are unselfishly giving him the time and space he needs, and i would not be surprised if he didn't come running and begging you back before too long. To speed up the process, may i recommend you getting in touch with old friends, or using whatever u can to get out there and have some fun!! :)

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 3:10pm

Thank you so much, That was just what I needed to hear. I have done just that. I have been living life for me.

Thank you so much. :}