I don't know what to do.
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I don't know what to do.
| Tue, 11-23-2004 - 8:43am |
It has been 5 months...5 months, and I CAN NOT GET OVER MY EX.
I haven't seen him..he lives in omaha and i am in chicago. We talk but not really, and yesterday he emailed me on my birthday saying that he is with someone else and that he doesn't want to talk about or think about the past. IT just makes me so sad. I want to be with him so bad, and I want to see him I haven't met a guy since that even compares to him. I think i am afraid I will be alone forever.
Does anyone else feel the same..how long does it take?
amy

Hi,
I was going through the same thing... Mine dumped me the first week in June and I was not getting over him. Why? Because we kept talking and every time we talked it always gave me hope that in one of those conversations he would tell me that he missed me and wanted me back. Never happened. Three weeks ago I told him no more contact whatsoever and I am finally feeling a little better. I used to think about him all the time but now when he comes to mind I quickly turn my thoughts to something else; he's no longer allowed to live rent free in my mind. Absolutely you are not going to get over him if you keep talking to him. You need to break all communication with him (I do know it's hard) so you can begin your healing process. Good luck to you. Lucy
I think the wondering about finding someone like him and being alone forever are natural things.
I have to agree with what everyone here is saying about cutting off all contact. I broke up with the love of my life just two months ago and I was absolutely devastated to have to do it. But we've had no contact since then and I think it's what has helped me heal some.
As much as I've wanted to hear from him (email or something), Iknow that if he called right now, just to say Hi, it would completely mess with my head. I'd get to analysising the whole conversation and part of me would get delusions of some sort of recocilation. Or worse, I could hear about a new woman and how great his life is right now, which is actually what I dont need. It's more comforting to me to know that i don't know anything that's going on in his life and he about mine. I don't want to run into him or hear anything about him, especially with someone new.
I am sorry too that you're still feeling this way (I'm crossing my fingers for 6 months to fly by soon just to feel better). But I think you should cut him off. It's much harder to let go when he is still in your life, no matter how small that is.