I don't know what to do....?? cry daily

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I don't know what to do....?? cry daily
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Wed, 11-28-2007 - 8:43am

How do I tell her I want to be with her?
This girl and I were together for over a year and a half, great relationship but she moved to a different state b/c of school. I love her and I want to be with her, I think she is the one. I didn't get to tell her that before she left, but that is how I feel. The goodbye was very tearful. And she still calls me every day and tells me she loves me and misses me, it has been a week. I never told h er how I felt because early on we decided that when her time here was up we were going to end it and remain friends. She is coming back for a day or 2 in December, to do something for school and has asked to stay with me. How do you suggest I tell her that I want to be with her and that I love her so much.? Should I wait til she is here? Any advice, please I want to be with her so bad. I don't want to ask her to marry me right now because i want that to be special and at a time that we are both ready, But I want to be with her, have no problem moving.

ALSO, I can tell things are a lot different with her than others, other serious girls I have been with, I have not cried over this much or really thought about this much. Should I tell her that too? I've never cried daily like this after anyone, and I have had serious relationships in the past.

We are 25 and 26 years old

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Wed, 11-28-2007 - 10:39am
Do you think she feels the same about you?
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Wed, 11-28-2007 - 11:29am
I don't think the LDR thing will work, not because I don't trust her or love her enough but because we both want to see each other. I am certain I can not make her come back here, because her school is so important to her and I know and understand / admire that.
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Wed, 11-28-2007 - 11:49am

Welcome to the board pts4560,


So if you don't think a LDR will work for you, what do you want to happen when you tell her how you feel?

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Wed, 11-28-2007 - 11:50am
are YOU willing to drop what you are doing and move there? thats the only option then. if not then you two need to make a friendly break. break ups are very hard no matter how good/bad they are.
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Wed, 11-28-2007 - 12:03pm

Well in reality yes, I think I am ready to do that, move to where she is. I mean when is the right time that you know that you want to be with someone?

She has told me before that she wouldn't want me to drop everything and just move and change my life for her. But I don't know how she feels now, probably the same.

I mean I've had a long relationship like this before and I didn't feel this way at all. I don't know. I just want to be with her, you know?

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Wed, 11-28-2007 - 1:38pm

And I do really want to talk to her when she comes here in December, but I don't know if I should tell her, because as soon as I do she will want me to tell her now. And I'm sure as soon as I tell her I want to talk she will think it is about me wanting to be with her.

What would be the best thing to do about that?

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Wed, 11-28-2007 - 2:21pm
DOnt tell her you want to talk. whever you say that to
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Wed, 11-28-2007 - 3:31pm
she just says that there really isn't anything we can do about it.