I don't know what to do with myself...

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Registered: 10-09-2005
I don't know what to do with myself...
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Sun, 10-09-2005 - 5:40am
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Edited 10/9/2005 11:25 am ET by nevermore2005
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 10-09-2005 - 10:34am

nevermore2005...

Pianoguy has 3 suggestions...which you can take or discard.

1. You DON'T owe ANYBODY any explanations about your relationship. Family, friends and co-workers are naturally curious whenever they see 'a happy person' or 'a happy couple!' But their curiosity doesn't mean you have to 'share information' if you don't want to.

2. Just because an EX-GF emails a previous b/f doesn't mean the man is still hung up on her? It's entirely possible she still wants to keep things going...or needs some sort of closure...but comparing his computer behavior with her---to what he does or doesn't provide for you---is a little silly, don't you think? Why display your insecurity over a woman who might mean NOTHING to your 'military man?'

3. I realize this gentleman is your FIRST TRUE B/F...and first loves are special (for both women and men). But you have to realize that a first love ISN'T going to be your ONLY LOVE! The possibility of 'reuniting' may (or may not) be in the cards for the 2 of you sometime down the road, but it's NOT going to happen NOW!

While there's no ivillage profile on you, I'm willing to bet that you're a terrific lady who MANY MEN would like to get to know? Whether this is just for friendship purposes or for something more serious...who knows?

Please don't sell yourself short based on your recent relationship. You've got a lot more to offer than you give yourself credit for. GIVE YOURSELF A CHANCE...OKAY?

Best wishes and warm thoughts...

Pianoguy