..."i dont luv you anymore"...
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..."i dont luv you anymore"...
| Fri, 09-10-2004 - 12:30am |
has anyone ever ended a relationship w/ their partner because they were not In Love (or fallen out of love) w/ them. And then after moving on and dating other people (after the breakup), you come to realize that you were wrong? would u go back w/ your ex knowing u broke their heart? or would it be easier to start off as friends and work your way up again? Is this a silly question, like something u only see in a romance movie? i feel weird for asking. What's your opinion?

The sparks that are there in the first several months have nothing to do with 'love'. THey are sparks and excitement and lust. But love is not sometihng you fall into. It is an act. But people settled back in relationships and the 'spark' invariably disappears and then they believe its because they fell out of love. But i think those people shoudl ask themselves how much of themselves they put into it.
Anyhow to answer your question if you come to a realization, that required much thought and self analysis to get to, then you owe it to your ex and to yourself to let them know how you feel. But i MUST stress as a dumpee under these circumstances, you HAVE to be committed to this. You must wait several months to ensure the feelings are still there AND you must realize that the novelty of getting back together will also go away one day. And you will be in the same situation again. Will you leave once the going gets tough? DO you have the tools and maturity to really be in a long term reelationship?
Do not hurt this person again. And to tell you the truth, they probbaly wont be interested. If they aren't, move on and learn a tough lesson.