I dumped him so why do I hurt like this?
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I dumped him so why do I hurt like this?
| Wed, 04-04-2007 - 6:17pm |
I broke up with my boyfriend of over a year earlier this week. We were living together and I asked him to also move out. The relationship had lost a lot of spark and we never saw each other any more... and when we did see each other all we did was fight. We tried to work through our problems but really towards the end it seemed like we were more roommates or friends than a couple.
Since Monday when we had the BIG TALK (and both cried hysterically) I have been feeling incredibly depressed. If I dumped him, why am I feeling like this?

You're upset because you are going through a loss, and it's normal to feel desperately upset for a while, regardless of who dumped whom. The next little while will be hard. It doesn't change the fact that it wasn't working with him.
I know how awful it feels to be the person who leaves. In some ways it's even worse than being left, because you are not only dealing with your own loss, but possibly also guilt over leaving him. But you did what you felt was right, and you will find someone who is a better fit for you. But for now you just need to go through the motions of getting better.
Best of luck.
Oh my goodness girl, I can so relate.
I left my boyfriend, too, but I feel all of the hell of being both a dumper and a dumpee.
The fact is, you loved each other. You invested in each other's lives. Any loss is tough, but loss of a loved one and your relationship (along with EVERYTHING else you identified with those two) is devastating.
If you need to talk, you can email me.
Until then, you MUST keep on fighting to heal and move forward. Try not to worry about what will happen to you two. Focus on yourself, otherwise things won't change.