I end it, then wanna get back him agian
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I end it, then wanna get back him agian
| Thu, 08-23-2007 - 10:41pm |
Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and half, within that time, ive broken up with him twice. Everytime I do it, it feels right at first but then after a few days I start feeling very sad,depressed,lonley, so bad to the point where i dont get out of bed and cant stop crying. And then I always want him back, and he always takes me back and then at first it amazing but then it eventually starts to go downhill and now im in the same situation. Its so bad right now, we dont have a good time when we are together, and fight constantly. It doesnt seem to bother him at all though, I guess he considers this normal. I also never feel like having sex with him anymore or being as affectionate. He is my first love so that may be why I find it so hard to let go, but other then that I have no idea why I do this. Is there anyone else ever been in the same situation?

Welcome to the board christie383,
Ending a 'first love' relationship is hard, very hard.
Actually yes, same period of time, same cycle of break ups unti he finally ended it.
Seems as if you're cycling through the same old routine every..single...time. Take a few days off and do some reflecting about why you're stuck in the same old rut.
Susanna
Christie,
You are going to feel bad for hurting him, but you must put yourself first. Yes, you might feel like a fool breaking up with him for the 3rd time, but if it's what your heart is telling you to do, it's right. And it's not fair to him to stick with him when you don't truly love him anymore. You can't beat yourself up about it, not every guy is the right guy for you and it doesn't seem like he's the right one. You were together for a long time, you probably went through a lot of experiences together, and became really good friends as well as boyfriend/girlfriend. It's natural that you're going to be sad after you break up. You're grieving the loss of the relationship. But trust me, you won't feel like this forever. If you still feel miserable in 6 months maybe you could give it another shot. Until then, surround yourself with friends, go to movies, out to dinner, go on different dates, do things that make you happy and feel good. Do not call him. You both deserve to get on with your lives and meet people who make you feel fulfilled and happy. Whatever is meant to be, will be.