i feel like dieing

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-21-2007
i feel like dieing
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Fri, 12-28-2007 - 6:05pm

Hi Everyone,


This is my first time posting on this board, and thought that maybe someone out there can give me some insight.

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Registered: 10-03-2005
Fri, 12-28-2007 - 9:40pm

I can tell you what I read repeatedly on this board, which is to NOT contact him. Personally I can say that it is the hardest but best route to go.

>>You don't act completely normal and then one day just wake up and decide that you don't have feelings for someone anymore.
I can only speak from my own experiences, but this usually is not the case, where someone overnight loses feelings for someone. More likely it was a gradual thing that took him some time to verbalize.

I'm sorry this happened. I've been there; it's terrible and you feel blindsided. Try to be patient with yourself right now and just let yourself be sad and devastated. These feelings won't last forever.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-21-2007
Fri, 12-28-2007 - 10:53pm
Yes, but nothing changed between us.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-21-2007
Sat, 12-29-2007 - 4:55pm
So, I guess no one had any input to my situation?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-04-2007
Sat, 12-29-2007 - 6:14pm

daisy2378


I agree, someone does not just change their feelings overnight.


There is likely more to the story- but it seems he is not going to tell you. From what you posted, it sounds like he is just plain leaving the relationship- could be a multitude of reasons but none of them really matter because if he wanted to try and fix it, he would talk to you about it.


The only advice I can give you is NC. See what he does when you aren't contacting him- will he miss you? Try and contact you? Do not give in to him if he does contact you- you need to begin moving on and not let him weigh you down. For now, he has made a decision- regardless of his reasons- he broke things off. Stay strong and start making your game plan to move on without him


Sorry this happened to you. I would say he is a coward to not come forth with the reasons, but don't waste anymore time giving him your time. You deserve better.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2007
Sat, 12-29-2007 - 8:13pm

Hi Daisy,


What you described sounds TRULY frustrating. There is nothing worse than being left to figure things out on your own. The least he could have done was told you the truth. I wish I could give you a plausible theory, but it boils down to him not respecting your heart and being too much of a coward to deal with you properly. No replies to emails, phone calls or text messages just digs the hurt in further. It's gonna take time my dear.


I wish your heart a speedy recovery and hope you can get through this as quickly as possible. Big hugs!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-21-2007
Sat, 12-29-2007 - 8:33pm
Thanks for the encouraging words.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-09-2004
Sun, 12-30-2007 - 9:00am

Daisy-


I think there is more to it than you know. I think guys are very good at hiding things when they really want to. Because you are right, it does not make any sense. And you do deserve better, and did deserve an explanation. But the explanation may not have answered your questions. I have been in your situation before, and I wanted to know why. Even if I got the answer, it made no sense to me, and it made me have more questions. Please do the NC. I know it is hard, read my pathetic posts about myself. But it is what works. It is his loss, and you must remember that.

seachells

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2007
Sun, 12-30-2007 - 9:10am

You are not alone.


I too had

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-21-2007
Sun, 12-30-2007 - 9:55am
Thank you for the words of encouragement, as the days go by (which there haven't been many yet) I just get more and more fustrated and depressed.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2007
Sun, 12-30-2007 - 12:18pm

daisy


I can relate.

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