I feel like Im going crazy

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Registered: 02-28-2007
I feel like Im going crazy
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Wed, 02-28-2007 - 3:27pm
My boyfriend of five months, who told me he was falling for me and that I was his sunshine, etc., suddenly says that he's not that invested and that he needs a break to figure out if im worth it. He is moving in 4 months. I am going crazy... I am considering things I never considered doing.. checking his email, etc. Please someone help. Should I consider it over or see what he says?
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 3:38pm
Hi lindseyloo and welcome to the board.
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Registered: 10-16-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 3:38pm
STOP! Don't check his e-mail or go through his things or spy on him in anyway. If there is anything worth saving or anyway that you can get through this he will never understand your reasoning or intentions for not trusting him and spying on him. Resist that urge and ask him to talk to you a bit more and help you understand what went wrong.
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Registered: 02-28-2007
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 3:42pm
Im not actually going to do it, but it is taking every ounce of willpower. The distance thing is the main reason we went on the break. He has to see if Im worth it or not. He said he doesnt know if he's invested.... then why the hell did he tell me that he thinks he loves me. Im beginning to wonder if it is worth it myself... He asked me a month ago if I would be willing to move in a year after grad school... Yet when it came for him to decide where to move for his residency.. he didn't even consider me.. he picked places 4-10 hours away. Im going crazy, because he's my best friend and i miss him so much. So I feel like im going crazy.