i feel pathetic

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Registered: 03-28-2003
i feel pathetic
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Mon, 09-13-2004 - 8:33am
Well i wrote the email about it being 2 months and not being over my ex.

I feel worse. I just dion't know why i CAN NOT cut off contact.

I think alot of my reasons i'm so sad are that I want someone around and he was the last one. I just can't think of anything that I dont' like about him..he was perfect. He was all i want in a man. We talked last night and he called me an idiot and said there will never be an us and for me to get it in my head.

I think also for me I can't imagine the idea of going the rest of my life without him. I can't imagine him being with someone else. I have even gone out on dates with other people but it just isn't him.

I don't know how to get in my head that he's not worth my time, that I need to stop contact. It is so hard to get through my days...i feel sad all the time.

I just need help. I need something. I feel so hurt by him.

amy

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Registered: 05-09-2003
In reply to: agrip76
Mon, 09-13-2004 - 9:07am
"He was all i want in a man. We talked last night and he called me an idiot and said there will never be an us and for me to get it in my head."

Amy, I'm very sorry you're going through this. I know how much it hurts. Above, I copied and posted a sentence from your post that really stood out to me. Why would you want to be with someone who puts you down and calls you an idiot? I'm not trying to sound harsh, I just want you to think about that...

You also said you want to be with someone and he was the last one. For now, maybe it's best for you to take some time alone, and figure out what you really want from a relationship. You deserve to be treated much better and you can certainly find someone who will do just that.

"Without music, life is a journey through the desert"...

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Registered: 02-12-2004
In reply to: agrip76
Mon, 09-13-2004 - 1:03pm
I know that it's difficult right now, and there isn't a time stamp for pain. Everyone takes their own amount of time to heal. Anytime you start to think about him, or calling him, I would just keep that phrase in your head. He called you an idiot and said that there would never be an us. First step is finding the respect for yourself to realize that it is his loss. Keep your head up and look deep for some willpower. Get out and keep yourself busy.

~Lindsay~

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Registered: 04-08-2004
In reply to: agrip76
Mon, 09-13-2004 - 2:46pm
Another thing - adjust your thinking. He wasn't all you want in a man. What you want in a man is, arguably, the qualities your ex possessed AND undying, unconditional love and devotion to you. A great sense of humor, dreamy blue eyes, whatever, that's all fine, but loving you with all his heart and never wanting to let you get away, that's the missing element. And there will be a guy out there who has that, too.