I finally did it. NC!!!

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Registered: 04-19-2005
I finally did it. NC!!!
Mon, 05-23-2005 - 10:37pm

Just wanted to share...after 4 months I have finally said no more contact. Don't call me don't email me, don't show up at my door, I don't want anything to do with you anymore. I did say however if he realizes that he made a major mistake he could let me know, and we could see where to go from there. BUT if he calls me or tries to contact me I said that would be a clear sign he wanted to work things out. He tried to convince me that he wanted to stay friends to see where things would go...to see if we could eventually work it out...he said he had been thinking lately that he wanted to give it another shot. It didn't work...I said no...just don't contact me, it hurts too much, opens too many wounds and it is time for me to move on. I feel so incredibly liberated! I still love him of course, I still miss him everyday...but I finally was able to put the cap on it. Now I don't need to look for missed calls or emails...I know there isn't anything coming. It takes time to get to this point so if you aren't here yet don't worry you'll get there. Trust youself and do what feels right for you. If you make a mistake don't beat yourself up...this whole process takes time...I hate that word but it is really true.

I think by the time he realizes what he lost it will be too late.

btw- my relationship ended because he "wasn't ready" to make a committment. I'm 28 and he's 26, we date for a year and half and were truly best friends, no real issues.