i gave so much but he never gave back

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Registered: 02-21-2006
i gave so much but he never gave back
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Tue, 02-21-2006 - 9:46am
we were together for 6 months and i always supported him and tried to help him through his drama. he never made any effort to do the same for me. all i ever wanted was his attention and love but i guess he couldnt give it.i felt like i wasn't worth his time. if i tried to tell him what i needed he would yell and cuss at me and if i cried he would ask me why the hell was i crying. finally on our anniversary weekend (even though he promised me a month ahead of time) he wouldn't even spend the whole time with me. he went out with his friends instead and yelled at me for wanting him to stay with me saying if i couldnt accept that he had other things to do then 'f*ck u' . needless to say, that was the straw that broke the camel's back, but why do i feel so sad. i miss him so much. we could've been happy if he didnt treat me like sh*t. i should be happy that it's over, but i'm miserable. why?
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Registered: 08-31-2005
Tue, 02-21-2006 - 10:29am
You miss him because you cared for him, you cared for him because you saw potential. Its weird how bad guys get girls to stick around isn't it. I believe it is because these types of guys can be manipulative. We always see the best in people and expect that over time we will see the true person come out of their shell. It never happens though. People can change, but only if they want to. I dated a guy, whom I recently left, for about 2 years. For the first year he was not very nice, simular to your BF it sounds like. Then I ended it with him and we got back together. After that he became a better person, but never the guy I wished he could be. You and I and many other women need to realize we cannot date potentials, we need to date the real guy. Which means guys who are stable, caring, loving and trust worthy. Trust me they are out there, I have meet a few of them.
Appreciate this time you have to yourself and be thankful that you do not need to deal with such an abusive person anymore.