I got a question, What do you think?

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Registered: 12-20-2005
I got a question, What do you think?
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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 3:56pm

Hey Everyone-

I just have a little question. As some of you know, I have finally :) broke up with my boyfriend, it feels so great! Well his cousin just got hired where I work. And she is so nice and really fun. I don't know her really, I met her once a while back. Well, she is looking for a roommate and so am I, so we talked about and it would totally work if we lived together. BUT the thing is, is that I don't want this to be a problem with me and my ex. She and my ex hardly ever talk though, they rarely see each other except some holidays. She even said she wouldn't say anything to him about it. I am just trying to be cautious here. I mean I don't think it would be that big of a deal. It is just weird I guess, I mean I want him completely out of my life and it feels like he is somehow still there if I move in with her, but then again I think I could get over it. I am sure I would never see him. He doesn't even know where she lives, or her mom which is his aunt, like I said they are not close at all. So I guess I am asking if you guys think this would be okay to do, to move in with her? Is it a big deal or would it be fine?

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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 4:05pm

I think it would be a mistake at this point, if only because HE would probably read something into it.

You need to make a clean break, and having that indirect connection to him wouldn't be consistent with that.

Sheri

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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 4:18pm
What if I waited awhile to move in, maybe til the end of this summer, that way things could smooth over a little and time will have gone by...?
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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 4:23pm

Well, that *may* work...if you've managed to not have any contact with each other for 3-4 months, and it's clear by then he's moved on.

Sheri

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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 5:08pm

I think that if he doesn't frequent her abode, it would be fine.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me  

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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 5:45pm

Have you followed the OP's posts about her relationship and multiple breakups with this guy? If you have and you still have the same advice, then that's fine, I just wanted to make sure you were aware of the circumstances.

Sheri

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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 6:24pm

Hi Sheri,


I posetd on this board many, many moons ago... 6 or 7 years!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me  

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Wed, 05-17-2006 - 12:36am
Sorry, I just couldn't help smiling when you said "I broke up with my boyfriend :) it feels so great!" I so badly want to get to that point ... where I'm happy to be alone again.