I hate weekends
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| Tue, 07-04-2006 - 8:43am |
So about 5 days in and I thought I was doing great and then comes Saturday. Because we couldn't spend any time together during the week because of the kids, we always spent the weekend together. So I expect to be a little sad, but nothing like what came.
The last time we really talked was last Wed and I said I'd call in a couple of days to set up a time for a face to face where we could exchange our stuff. All very civilized. Well I put off calling until Sat afternoon, trying to prove to him (and me) that I don't really need to talk to you and I'm just fine...thank you very much. So I call him and it's just like normal...talk about the kids, weekend plans yada yada. I guess I wanted him to ask why I hadn't called the day before like he might have missed me, but no such luck. So I ask him when his brother can watch his kids so we can get this finished. He says it will probably be Monday or Tuesday night and that he'd call to confirm in a couple of days. We said goodbye, hung up and I fell apart and stayed that way for two days. Not easy to do when you have a couple of toddlers running around. I'm trying not to show them anything's wrong, but they can't help but know that mom's sad.
Well today's day three, still no call. So now I'm not sad, I'm mad. It's one thing not to be able to make me a priority when we were dating, but you'd think he could at least consider my feelings during the breakup. Also, now that I'm really mad, I just want this over with. This last meeting is just handing over my head and I want it done.
I'm thinking of sending an e-mail today if I don't hear from him by this afternoon. Not nasty, just to the point making him give me a set time to do this. Hell, if he's too chicken to do a face to face I leave his stuff in the garage and he can do the same...I want my stereo back.
What do you think.
K

Oh girl, that first weekend
Hi hun,
YOU are not alone, I too have little ones, and its so difficult keeping composure for them and not get them upset...especially my daughter, mommy, why are you crying? I'm like, i'm not, there is something in my eye, ugh!!
I say snd the email, saying just that, your stuff will be here to be picked up, I really would like my stuff too, can you just leave it somewhere so I can come and get it. You are better off not seeing him I think, it will be emotional anyway.
And as far as the respect for our feelings? My man wasn't exactly the best communicator either, so I definetly dont expect any better behavior now. If they weren't so inconsiderate of our feelings, we might not be on this post in the first place right?
Good luck to you,
hang in there!! We are all grieving together!!
hugs,
Louise
Thanks to both of you.
I did send the e-mail, but it was very polite. Simply stated I wanted to set a time to do this because I'm on vacation for a week starting next Saturday and I wanted to get this over with before then.
I really need to get this done with ASAP because I can't even start the no contact with it hanging over my head.
Anyway, sent it a little over an hour ago and still no reply. Can you say coward. If anything this is helping me realize what an inconsiderate jerk he is.
K