I have had enough!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2006
I have had enough!
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Fri, 07-27-2007 - 12:55am

Maybe someone can help me because Im seriously sick of it all. I met someone two years ago I was convinced would be "the one". He seemed sweet, kind, all the good things we want and need. I had doubts about him (he's 1500 miles away from me, not completely over losing his kids in the divorce) but I really liked him. He pursued me. I liked it until one day when I expressed my concerns and he bolted.

Which, as difficult as it was, would have been fine but he has since then continued to contact me off and on...telling me how much he misses me...yada yada. Moreover, he has made plans to come see me, only to cancel on me (three times). After that, I told him "we're done". Yet, he continued to contact me (text messages, mostly).

So, the latest was a week ago, when he contacted me and told me that he was "tired of ignorning his heart" and wanted more with me...of course, I didnt hear from him for a week after that. No calls to talk to me...just more text messages.

So, last night, I had had enough. It has been two years and we are still playing these mindless games and all Iv gotten is headaches and an ulcer. I kept hoping he would realize how much he wanted me and want to discuss our relationship...but nothing. He never wants to discuss it. So, I finally told him...please no more contacts, I have a bf, which is a lie. I dont.

But, Id rather be alone than go thru this.

Why do I feel so bad?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-22-2006
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 11:16am

Hi and welcome to the board ivleena,

You feel bad about his because as annoying and and aimless as his contacts have been, there was still hope. There was hope every single time he made any kind of indication that he might actually act on what he said he felt. Now you have to let that go, you have to let go of the past you had with him, and whatever future you had hoped for. And that sux.

It's going to hurt for a while, it's going to feel worse before it begins to feel better, but eventually, you'll be able to breathe deeply and actually feel relaxed (and hopeful for something else) once again.

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Registered: 07-25-2007
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 2:38pm
He is stringing you along and you guys don't even live near eachother. Guys love to know they have a sense of control over someone. He probably likes the fact that he has you waiting in the wings...just in case. Maybe if he lived closer then I'd say to maybe try to fix things...but with him living so far away...he's just not worth it. What has he given you?? Nothing other than heartache and anxiety, and you don't even get to see him. You did the right thing by telling him it's over.
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Registered: 08-04-2006
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 2:48pm
Thanks..and you are right. I think I knew he was just playing games along the way, but I was really hoping I was wrong. When we first had met, he was so attentive and loving and I thought he would return to being that way, but he never did. Its so sad that he had to play these games; he never realized how much I wanted to make this work. Im glad I finally cut it off too. Im sure he was upset that he had lost control over me, but I feel good about my decision. Thanks for your guidance : )