I just broke up with him today......

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Registered: 10-01-2004
I just broke up with him today......
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Wed, 06-01-2005 - 10:19pm

Well, I just need to vent. I found an email Monday that a woman wrote my now ex-boyfriend thanking him for such a good time and attaching a naked pic.

Needless to say I am devastated. I have lived with him now for 2.5 years. I had been thinking about leaving him re: the marriage and commitment issue, but to find out he is cheating on me has blindsided me.

So, there is no way I can stay with him and accept his pitiful excuse for that email. He is denying and lying, but I know deep down that he is encouraging this girl at the very least and giving her a reason to think she can send him naked pics.

The hurt is bad, but the loneliness is worse. We moved to where we live now 5 months ago for his job, a promotion. I don't know many people here in town, and so being in this situation is extremely difficult when you live with someone in a town where you don't have close friends to rely on. The hurt of the situation is bad enough, but now the devastation that the one person I thought was my best friend is no longer that, either. I hope I can get over this hurt soon, but first I have to find a way to move out and move on. I'll figure it out, but it hurts so so so so bad right now.

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 10:40pm

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I know the pain seems unbearable, but it will get better - just give it time. Is moving back to where your friends are an option? At the very least, plan a trip to see your friends - it will be good to get out of town.

We all talk about losing our best friend during a breakup and that is one of the hardest things. The person you talk to everyday, depend on, and trust is suddenly gone and that leaves an empty feeling. I know its tempting to try to remain friends, but please don't. You need time to move on, Take care of yourself, and know that you did the right thing.

Good luck.

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Registered: 10-01-2004
Thu, 06-02-2005 - 12:00am

Thanks for the encouragment.

Moving back to family and friends is an option, but not right this second. I have to wait at least a month to give notice at work and pack my things......it is just so overwhelming and disappointing all at the same time. I am sure everything will work out how it is supposed to, but right now I am facing the realization that my guy who I thought loved me to death in fact doesn't love me like he says he does, and has been cheating on me and doing exactly what he says he would never do to me!

I know breaking up is the right thing to do - that i deserve much much better, but it hurts so bad right now. More than I realized it could ever hurt.

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Thu, 06-02-2005 - 11:22pm
Vent away...that's what we're here for!!!
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