I just cannot deal with this!
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I just cannot deal with this!
| Tue, 11-06-2007 - 5:36pm |
Hello,
I am going through a break-up after 7 years and am so lost, my whole world has crashed and burned.
| Tue, 11-06-2007 - 5:36pm |
Hello,
I am going through a break-up after 7 years and am so lost, my whole world has crashed and burned.
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Hugs to you both. I'm on day 9 of NC, and it still sucks, but it's getting better. I'm currently taking my Masters thesis course (which is a lot of reading, weekly discussions, and 3 papers). I emailed my professer last Sunday when I broke up with my boyfriend, and explained to her my circumstances. She was really understanding, and gave me extra time to submit my assignments. I allowed myself time to grieve, and I also scheduled time to work on my Masters one hour at a time. As the week progressed, I found that I could concentrate a bit easier each time. I am just starting to feel a bit normal again, and I'm starting to get in touch with my anger (I'll be damned if I'm going to let my ex screw with my Masters program because I've worked too hard to get to where I am). I wish you the best, and I know it's hard, but focusing on your graduate studies will get easier. Just take it one hour at a time, one day at a time, and rememeber that it's an investment in yourself.
hugs, lisa
I'm sorry you're in so much pain right now, but please know that everyone who reads/posts on here has 'been there, done that' and can assure you that things are going to get better with time. As I've mentioned before, it's only Day 9 for me (we broke up last Sunday), and it's still difficult for me to see him around town. If you read my other posts, I felt the same way that you do last weekend. I'm still taking it day by day, hour by hour. One hour I can feel like I'm getting over it and doing better, the next hour I'm close to tears because I miss him, then an hour later I'm as angry as hell at him for acting like such a scared jerk. There is a lot of wisdom, advice, common sense, and insights on this board. Read the posts, read the suggested resources because it helps. Take care of yourself right now. My thoughts are with you. Hang in there!
hugs, lisa
Welcome to the board brokenheart68,
Sending you a HUG.
Welcome to the board mariette_tolmay,
I'm sorry you are going through this.
The most painful state of being is remembering the future, particularly one you can never have - Kierkegaard
Chances are 'falling out of love' didn't just happen overnight, though it appears to be that way based on his behavior.
Hello,
Thanks to everyone for your encouragement.
Hugs,
Dbest
Hi, I'm sorry you're going through this, I can really feel your pain in your posts. What worked for me is to not be afraid of the pain and anger and sadness that comes with the end of a relationship. I know it's scary, but you're not doing any favours to yourself if you keep avoiding it. Like I mentioned in another post, just because he doesn't see the good qualities in you, doesn't mean that they are not there. Spend this time to nurture and be good to yourself, and get in touch with all your positive qualities. You sound like a caring and loving person, and you didn't do anything wrong other than to give to the wrong person - someone who is unable to recognize all your positive qualities. It's still difficult for me, my moods change with the hour, but I promise you it does get better if you face it instead of trying to avoid it. Keep reading the other postings here, there is a lot of wisdom, insight, and experiences that will help you move past this relationship. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
hugs, lisa
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