I just dont understand!

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Registered: 03-01-2006
I just dont understand!
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Tue, 02-06-2007 - 3:59pm

Making a very long story sort; my boyfriend and I were together for 1 year and 3 months. During the final 3 months however we started acting weird. I asked him what was the matter and he said he wasn't sure if he wanted to be with me any more. So, we had a break for a few weeks (although in my mind not long enough). At the time, I was pregnant with our daughter, and the break in our relationship came to an end when I gave birth (she arrived a month early). For a while, everything was going great, but then he started to be weird and distant again.

Over the next month or two, he'd switch between loving me and wanting to marry me, to not loving me and wanting us to be just friends. Any time we end up having a massive arguement, it doesn't take him very long to come crawling back to me, begging me to take him back. I always end up doing so because I think things will change. Sure, they do for a while, he tells me he loves me and wants to marry me, and then he goes distant again a few days later.

Just this past weekend however, he's told me that hes seeing someone else and has been for just about a week. I believe him on the length of time hes been seeing her. I was upset, we had an arguement and I stormed off to bed, leaving him to sleep on the sofa. The next morning, he came in to the bedroom, apologised, wouldnt let me break the tight tight hug he was giving me, he just held me close. He climbed into bed beside me and we just lay there staring into each others eyes for a while. Then one thing led to another. And you can guess what happened next- it didnt take long for him to act cold again. Hes never rude to me, just not affectionate. He also has a bracelet of mine that hes had since the start of our relationship that he has never taken off and still hasn't.

Am I just clinging on to a false sense of hope?

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 02-06-2007 - 4:12pm

Hi spyderbaby,


Welcome to the board.