I just talked to the Ex......

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Registered: 05-08-2006
I just talked to the Ex......
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Thu, 06-29-2006 - 5:05pm

Yeah I caved and I finally called him.

I did it because I had a gut feeling that I should call him and I always follow my intuition. I guess the timing was right or something.

Anyway, the conversation was really good. We just did the basic what have you been up to conversation. The whole thing only lasted about 10 minutes, but still it was a really good conversation.

We talked about how neither one of us really had any money.

Its sad, but I have to admit it everytime I talk to him I want to ask him if he is ever going to want me back, but I know that he probably doesn't even know the answer to that question right now. I always want to ask him if he still loves me, but I keep myself from it. I keep it friendly, which is sort of fake, but hey.

I'm not going back to the whole no contact thing. I did that, I healed and now I enjoy our conversations.

I'm moving on with my life. I do still have that little hope that one day..... Just maybe we can get back together. But I'm not going after him, he's gonna have to come after me.

I had wanted to ask him if he was just talking to me because he was being polite or if he really wanted to talk to me, but I didn't. That would only make me upset and him upset also. I figure if he didn't want to talk to me then he wouldn't answer his phone, wouldn't call me, and wouldn't sound genuinely happy to hear from me.

I ended the phone call with "Just call me anytime you feel like it".

Any thoughts?

~Amber~

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Registered: 10-20-2004
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 8:17pm

Hi Manno001,

Ive been in the same seat as you, and completely 100% know what you are going through. In my opinion, you did the right thing with not spilling out every single emotion and thought that was going through your mind. How long have you two been broken up? I know that no contact is usually the way to go, but like you, I did that, got a lil better, and have since resumed talking to my ex.

We broke up last fall and have been through a lot. We would have dinner and hangout with each other almost every weekend. It pained me though to hear about him still hanging out with his previous ex-girlfriend, they have since remained friends, tried being more, got in a huuuge fight, and i guess they are just working on being friends...last i heard things still arent good between them. Not a day goes by that I do not think of him, it especially hurts in the morning on my way to work and then in the afternoons on my way home from work. We still talk pretty often during the week. We had a really good conversation tonight and he told me he missed me. Thats a big thing for me because we used to say that to each other all the time, but that stopped for a lil bit, but I am glad that he is saying it again.

I too still have hope for one day...I am thinking several years down the road. I guess you could say that we are working on our friendship too. I miss him a lot, I really loved him a lot. Who knows what life has in store. But I am glad that you posted. It is nice to have someone to talk to and relate to.

Hang in there and feel free to vent all you want!