I know it's coming....
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| Sun, 06-05-2005 - 4:36pm |
Hello everyone. My BF of a little over a year and I are on the verge of breaking up. Like some other people have said on the board, it is kind of out of the blue. He had told me and all of our friends that he wanted to get married, and he has been talking about us buying a house. (HE began ALL of these discussions. I was not in a hurry.) Anyway, less than a week ago, I got the "I'm not happy and I don't know if it is us, work, etc... but something needs to change" speech and he began sleeping in the second bedroom of our shared apartment. He told me today that things aren't getting any better, which I take as a warning of things to come. I also think (but do not have proof) that he has been talking to other women online recently. If that is the case, I want him out now.
I cry every night when I go to bed because this hurts so bad. I love him and I wish I didn't have to lose him, but I don't want to live in limbo either. The problem is the longer this goes on, the less I know if I want to continue with the relationship either. I don't trust him right now and I am hurt that he even thinks the source of his unhappiness could be our relationship. I wish he would just decide what the heck he wants and let me move on one way or another. Any suggestions for dealing??? My heart hurts.

Welcome!
I can certainly understand you not wanting to be in limbo... when my ex needed "space", I made the decision to leave because I knew I couldn't wait to see what would happen. It was the best thing I could have done.
It's equally tough when you live together, as we did. I was there with him for 2 months after the split and ended up leaving early and paying out the lease. It was
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"You get what you settle for"...