I left my husband

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Registered: 06-04-2007
I left my husband
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Thu, 07-19-2007 - 11:56pm

Help.

I left my husband of 11 yrs, been together 17 yrs because I found out he posted personal ads on various adult sex sites. Also, I went online and viewed his detailed cell phone bills. I found he was calling two women out of state on a continous basis. He called one of the women more than the other. He would call her every morning after I left for work and called her several times throughout the day. They talked at least 1 1/2 a day.

I found western union receipts showing he sent money to a woman that lives in his hometown. He never mentioned these women, i didn't know they existed. I am so hurt. He said they are just friends. Long distance friends don't talk everyday all day. Whenever, I asked him to explain why he called so much, he gets upsets and tells me to get a divorce. He says the marriage isn't going to work.

Since he refused to answer my questions and continued to confide in her after I found out about their relationship. I decided to leave him. He wouldn't stop calling even though he knew it upset me. My husband and I work different shifts so we rarely spent time together. I'm so sad because the woman out of state was closer to my husband than me. I didn't talk to my husband two hours a day but she did.

I hurting so bad and he acts like he doesn't care. Since I left he posted his piture on dating websites looking for women

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-06-2007
In reply to: kay129
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 9:27am
I am so sorry to hear that. I hope things work out for you. Please keep posting so we know how you are. I'm sure there are women here who can give you some good advice. Hugs.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: kay129
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 1:34pm

Welcome to the board kay129,


You have a lot of feelings to work through - hurt, anger, betrayal.