I let him move in...now what?
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I let him move in...now what?
| Wed, 05-23-2007 - 1:39pm |
I hope I can explain the situation well enough to get some good advice. Here it goes. I met this guy while I was going through a divorce (has been in the process of divorce too). I think now I just wanted someone there. I have never been alone and didn't want to be alone to raise 2 children. Anyway, we dated and lived apart for awhile. In January I let him move in, by that time we were spending most of our time together and either me and my kids were staying with him or he and his kids were staying with me. We decided that we would stay in my house because it is paid for and he was having to pay rent on his house still so in he comes. Now just four months later I want him out. He keeps talking about us getting married and I know I am not ready to get married and have told him that. I am not sure of how to go about telling him I want him to move and when I do tell him to move how much time do I give him to get his things out? He has no where to go, which is part of the reason I have let this go on so long. I don't want him and his children out on the street. They have no family/friends that they can stay with until he finds somewhere to go. Please advise if you can. Thanks in advance to you all.

Hello there..
Hopefully you have already talked to him by now, but what I have learned from all my men friends, guys are pretty simple when it comes to talking to them. Tell him you both rushed into the move in too quickly, You think it would be best if you were not living together Because YOU have NOT even healed mentally from your exhusband!! So now, anything your ex did to annoy you ..you will just be transferring onto the new one. You did not even give your self time to get adjusted, your mind, your kids..my gosh ..the poor kids..what a rollercoaster for them! AND if this new guy doesnt appreciate your comedy, You will know he is WRONG WRONG WRONG for you! For anyone at that matter. This is such a wonderful step you are taking by admitting this ! Really! Dont settle and keep him around, this is a BAD example you are setting for your kids. break that cycle sister, stand up for your self & tell him..! YOU CAN DO IT! I dont mean to sound mean in any way, Im just all for women being a woman! Dont feel like you cannot live alone in your thoughts or just with your kids for a few months or a year, however long it will take. This is how we grow into much better, stronger more beautiful women!!
Peace to you!! Anne Marie