I love him, but don't want his drug use
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| Mon, 11-20-2006 - 2:38pm |
My boyfriend and I celebrated our one year anniversary on Friday. It's been a fulfilling year and I believed we loved each other and made each other happy. On Saturday, I woke up and he was gone. He called 3 hours later and said he was on his way. He didn't show up till almost 4 hours later. When he got back he said he had been out smoking crack. I told him to stay out with the rest of the crackheads and made his sleep outside. The more I thought about it, the more upset I became and I went ahead and threw his stuff out of the house yesterday. I have not seen him since.
He told me that he used to smoke crack years ago and that he was thru with drugs. I believed him and have seen no signs of drug usage. But I wouldn't see the signs if he's an undercover crackhead like I suspect he is. I am in love with him, and it breaks my heart that we are no longer a couple. Yet I feel I did the right thing (he could have told me the truth that he was out doing crack). Not tell me that's he's on his way home and still never show up. We based our relationship on truth and honesty and I fell all that is shattered. Please give me some advice ...did I do the right thing, should I try to help him with his addiction (he was married before and his ex wife said she tried to help him with this). I feel he's already been in this position before and I don't want to babysit anyone just to keep them away from drugs. He got so arrogant when I confronted him about it that I told him that I hated him and never wanted to see him. Truth is I am in love with him and this hurts. Please give me some guidance on this and help me be strong. Thanks for listening. Tamara

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