I miss.....

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I miss.....
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Thu, 04-06-2006 - 9:01pm

cuddling with him in bed
talking on our way to work
his text mesages
calling him about something silly
talking before bed
his smell
cuddling with him in bed
his arms around me
him wanting me
being comfortable with him
cuddling with him in bed
being able to take care of him
having a date
and cuddling with him in bed...

things i don't miss--
his yelling
his drinking
the way he got sometimes when he drank
calling me selfish
the unstable feeling i had about our relationship
my uncertainty of the future
constant bickering
working so hard to make it work
feeling like it wasn't getting much better even with all the work
wanting more
the constant anxious, nervous feeling in my stomache

i know i did the right thing..... and as time goes on, it seems to be getting a little easier....
sometimes though, it's just really hard. like in bed at night! just the idea of snuggling up with him and stuff. i know that what i miss are pretty much the superficial things and it was the important stuff that was lacking. it's just so hard. im just missing him right now a lot i guess.... tonight is tough.....
we haven't talked in three weeks tomorrow. :(

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Registered: 12-07-2005
In reply to: freckpp
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 10:17pm
I feel the same way. He is always on my mind. I am ok during the day, but as soon as i come home and it is dark outside....well, i just cry. :(
I
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Registered: 04-07-2006
In reply to: freckpp
Fri, 04-07-2006 - 1:00am
hi, I know exactly what you are going through it is very hard specially at the beginning. I broke up with my ex-boyfriend almost 3 months ago and I still miss him but I am getting better as time goes by. What did I do at the begining of the break up?? get out of the house!! i would go to my fav place barnes and nobles and starbucks and stare at all the hunks that passed by while i pretended to read books, hehehe and if i had to stay home, i will watch my fav tv show "friends" which i have all the seasons and luckily my ex and i never watched together so it is something that belongs just to me and i have no memory of him. Try that. and if you dont have something that is only yours. make one!! good luck!! and remember this feeling of missing him will pass.
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Registered: 12-07-2005
In reply to: freckpp
Sun, 04-09-2006 - 12:45am
wow...i feel the same way...i loved the same things about him and hated the same things....nights are especially hard for me...i still cry and it's been four months! i tried no contact, but it was too hard to ignore him...we have a class together and mutual friends....and i am still not completely over him....(sigh)
I
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Registered: 03-10-2006
In reply to: freckpp
Mon, 04-10-2006 - 3:07pm
Wow - reading your list pretty much sums up how I have been feeling. I am having a bad day today missing him and wanting to talk to him. I need to focus on that list - or write one of my own - to remind myself why I was unhappy. We were together for 3 years - he ended things a little over a month ago telling me I was no longer a priority - and that is it. We have talked only once since the break-up (he called drunk from a strip club so the conversation was pretty lame). I never had my "say" about the relationship - we never had any sort of talk after he ended things. It just doesn't feel right - to be together so much for three years and then...nothing. But I suppose we need to stay focused on what made us unhappy. It is just so hard sometimes when all you want is the closeness that you had. I tried to go on a date and cried the whole way home after. When does it truly fade away?? A question no one can answer, but it is so hard. Thanks for your post - it helps to see someone with a similar experience.