I must be stupid or something...

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Registered: 01-05-2007
I must be stupid or something...
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Fri, 01-05-2007 - 4:44pm
I must be stupid or something. I cant stop thinking about him, like at all. And then when I think about him, I think of his new girlfriend. They`ve only been together like 4 days! and hes already been in bed with her. How can he do that to me? And how can I get over it?? I need help. Im willing to move on now, I want to. I need to. I need to let go. Please someone, help me let go. Help me heal, I dont know what to do. I love him so much, and I know I always will, But i need help to let go and to move on. And to stop thinking about him sharing what we had with her. Please help me...please.
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Fri, 01-05-2007 - 5:23pm

I'm sorry for what you're going through--I've so been there and it's really hard. I had an ex I was with for 4 years *move in* with another woman a mere *2 weeks* after we broke up! So I totally understand the pain you're going through.

Unfortunately, I didn't realize at the time how important it was to have no contact with your ex in order to heal. So I allowed him to keep calling me and tell me that he missed me, even though he was *living* with this other woman! Needless to say, it took me a LONG time to get over him, because I kept talking to him. But I finally realized how much keeping in touch with him was hurting me. I was like you, thinking that it was better to at least be talking to him and have his friendship--but that wasn't true--it just kept me stuck in pain.

Anyway, you need to take it one day, even one hour at a time. Post as often as you need to. I find it helps to keep a journal and to have a list of people you can call instead of him. Also, have you heard of the book, "It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken"? I would highly recommend that you get and read that also.

Sheri

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Registered: 10-09-2006
Fri, 01-05-2007 - 5:23pm
I'm so sorry. This just sucks doesn't it? You are in such a hard place and wanting to get over it doesn't stop the hurt. I'm in the middle of a break up and despite my desire to call, second guess my decision or e-mail I've stayed strong, BUT IT'S SO HARD. I think you have to completely focus on yourself right now and occupy yourself as much as possible. You need to distract yourself from all of this. It's easy to drown in your hurt and it's okay to feel what you're feeling, but try to distract yourself as much as possible. You will get through this. He's already moved on and you don't want to be with a guy who could do that to you. You deserve better. You can't miss what you don't want so just realize that he isn't someone you want. Try to be strong and find comfort where ever you can get it.