I need advice

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Registered: 09-18-2004
I need advice
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Sat, 09-18-2004 - 4:19pm
I have been dating my current boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. I am only 18 years old. I just started college this year and i have been talking to this guy in my English class. He is really really cute, and he is super nice, but he is 24. I think that i like him, but i have been going out with this other guy for so long. And here lately i have been thinking that i dont care for the other guy as much as i used to. I need to know what do do about the whole thing.

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Sat, 09-18-2004 - 10:46pm
Welcome to the board!! Well...you calling your bf "the other guy" at the end of the post is not a good sign for him *ouch*. But I just have one question....and you don't need to answer it to me but to yourself.....Are you having feelings for this guy in your English class because he's more accesible than your bf and you get to see him more? The only thing I can suggest....is take time away from both guys....and see who it is that you miss the most. Good luck and keep us posted.
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Sat, 09-18-2004 - 10:52pm
Oftentimes, we don't miss what we had until we've lost it.

The truth of the matter is that although you are probably very much attracted to your classmate's "outer packaging," it sounds like you really don't know anything else about him. So why take the risk of losing all that you have with your boyfriend for something completely unknown with the classmate?

As long as your boyfriend is treating you well with love and respect, I say keep him. Of course, if he's mistreating you or is abusive in any way, dump him.

Either way, I wouldn't encourage you to jump into something new with your classmate. Rebound relationships seldom last and often end up causing more trouble than they're worth.

Take care,

Heymum