I need advz.. please help..
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| Mon, 01-30-2006 - 6:16pm |
I posted a few weeks ago about my x bf breaking into my home and basically robbing me after our bad breakup. We were together for almost 2 yrs, and i couldnt believe what type of person he had become. I was so angry about the robbery, that i wasnt able to greive over the breakup. We broke up because he couldnt trust me and was accusin me of cheating on him.
Anyway recently ive been coming to find out information about him. Hes been sleeping with 2 girls just to get back at me.. he used them in retaliation. Ive gotten numerous "restricted" number calls, and he basically is in hiding. No one really knows where is..etc. I recently saw him randomally, it was SOOO HARD. It was the 1st time i saw him since he robbed me, and i couldnt help but be so so sad. I shouldnt, i should get over it and realize what a jerk he is for doing what he did. But, he was so in love with me that he believes i caused this to happen.
Anyway, my question to all of you is.. I havent been able to let go. I dream every single night of him and all i ask him is why? I just want to know why he did this to me, why we ended the way we did, and to let him know i really was 100% faithful. I just want answers and closure.. i feel like i cant move on, esp since he was such a diff person when we were together. My friends give me mixed advice. One tells me no way, bad idea, dont talk to him. Another tells me, if thats what u need for closure, try but be strong.
I havent spoken to him since the day we broke up, which was dec 1 (the day before we were making love, and just happy together), then he robbed me dec 22.. I wanna know if i talk to him, will it help me heal?...I feel like im in the dark.

bellanella3...
Pianoguy would like to ask you a question:
"Do you HONESTLY get a great deal of pleasure out of 'weeping' for a man who has treated you like dirt?" If you do....then stop reading this response and move on to the next one.
If you're expecting some form of closure from the EX...FORGET IT!!! I doubt he'll give it to you?
Ditto if you think he's gonna re-enter your life a 2nd time? Face it! If he can sleep with others at the drop of a hat...they'll probably get 'burned' just as badly as you have?
The reason you're "in the dark" is because you AREN'T WILLING TO SEE THE LIGHT!!!
Take a serious look at this jerk and consider his behavior? Once you have...become the 'mature woman' you think you are....and dump him completely!!!
Pianoguy