I NEED ALL THE HELP I CAN GET :(
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| Tue, 03-29-2005 - 1:36pm |
OK....HERE IS MY STORY....
MY BOYFRIEND( EX AS OF TODAY) AND I HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR A YEAR. OUR WEDDING DATE WAS SUPPOSE TO BE MARCH 5, 2005. WELL, I SING IN A PROFESSIONAL, FULL-TIME SOUTHERN GOSPEL GROUP. A MONTH BEFORE OUR WEDDING, HE TELLS ME I HAVE TO QUIT SINGING, WHICH I HAVE DONE MY ENTIRE LIFE, OR HE WONT MARRY ME. OK, THIS IS LIKE THE DREAM I HAVE ALWAYS HAD AND HE KNOWS THAT. HE WANTS ME TO STAY HOME WITH HIM. OK, I UNDERSTAND ALL THIS, BUT I WOULD NEVER EVER ASK HIM TO LEAVE SOMETHING HE LOVES SO MUCH. HE TELLS ME I DONT LOVE HIM OR I WOULD SACRAFICE IT. I SAY HE DOESNT LOVE ME BECAUSE HE WOULD WANT TO MAKE ME GIVE IT UP. NEEDLESS TO SAY, I WOULDNT SET ANOTHER DATE BECAUSE WE HAD NOT WORKED OUT OUR ISSUES. HE TOOK MY ENGAGEMENT RING AND IS SELLING IT. HE DID THAT ABOUT 3 WEEKS AGO. WELL, TODAY HE BROKE UP WITH ME BECAUSE HE SAYS HE CANT GO FROM BEING MY FIACE TO MY BOYFRIEND AND ITS TOO MUCH EMOTIONAL STRESS. I REALLY NEED SOME ADVICE RIGHT NOW. NO DOUBT, I LOVE HIM OR I WOULD HAVE LEFT HIM A LOOOONG TIME AGO~~!!!! PLEASE EVERYONE BE HONEST AND HELP ME. ITS OK IF YOU THINK ITS MY FAULT, BUT I NEED SOME ADVICE BECAUSE I DONT THINK MINE IS WORKING WELL.....THANKS SO MUCH :)

Deep.
Breaths.
Ok, if that doesn't help, then let yourself believe that you deserve better than he could give you. I think you do, and I imagine many others do too. He wasn't asking you to compromise, but rather to give up something you love. And to do what? Sit at home?? I think I'd tell him to get a lap dog if he really wants a companion like that.
(Excuse the hostility... I can't stand for men to think that women deserve nothing more than to see the inside of a kitchen all day.)
Just be you. If that's not good enough for him, then he's not good enough for you.
Now, deep breath again. I believe you will get through this.