I need comfort..not that I deserve it...
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| Tue, 11-27-2007 - 12:15pm |
Hello,
I would like to start off with my story, then lead up to everything...sorry if it's long, but I really would appreciate some advice. I don't have many friends close by..and the ones I DO stay in touch with don't understand how much this REALLY hurts...all they can do is tel me to come party with them...I just don't want that b/c that's not really who i am anymore...
Well, here's my story..
Ive been with my bf for 4 years. Throughout these years, we've had problems..little ones, though. But the good has always outweighed the bad. Some of the problems we had were that since we live in a small town and the majority of our dating history has been throughout high school (we started dating when I was 15..I'm 19 now, and in my second year of college. He's 20). Living in a small town consists of hearing rumors and hearing too much information. I found out over the course of the 4 years we've been together, he's kissed two girls - I broe up w/ him both times..but only for a day b/c I could tell he was sorry for what he did and he regretted it sincerely. Anyways, along came MySpace. That does nothing but cause problems in a relationship..I'ev always been jealous of him talking to all the girls he has talked to...plus, he would go hang out w/ his friends and never invite me, though there were other girls and girlfriends of his friends there. So back in March of this year, I started hanging out w/ my friends and some new ppl they knew from their job. I wasn't looking to cheat...it just happened. This guy came onto me strong. We just hung out for a few weeks and he really seemed to like me. I was just loving the attention because I felt like he treated me better than my bf. So one night, we ended up having sex...but the next day and then on I cut him off and told him we should not have done that...and that I love my bf. So since March, I have kept this from my bf, only because I knew what I did was horrible - I regretted it. It

Welcome to the board laci8806,
Have a good cry.
Thank you for the reply...it helps
There are a lot of posts here because the person has been cheated on and hence the cause of their heartbreak.
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Hmm.
i'm not condoning cheating, but this statement made me wonder:
:because I felt like he treated me better than my bf:
have you talked to your bf about your feelings about your relationship and his flirting with other women & what that did to you?
does he realize the impact of his actions? not that that's any excuse, but even if you don't talk to him about this, think about it yourself.
if he can't provide what you need to be happy, should you be in that relationship, no matter how wonderful he is?
-- I'm not a guy, but often wish I was...
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"If someone is not treating you
That's true...thank you all for the advice. I'm going to use it.