I need an email buddy(ies)
Find a Conversation
| Sun, 08-05-2007 - 3:03pm |
My best friend told me that he's loved me for the last nine years.
He asked me to be his girlfriend lots of times but I knew he still
had some feelings for his ex-girlfriend. Apparently he doesn't
any more because he sat me down and told me that he had
starting dating someone,
(He's only seeing her for sex.)
and he was crying and he told me
that I would always be his girl no matter what happened.
Since then he has been crying and has gotten physically sick
and I have been doing the same.
We miss each other so much.
I told him that I want to be with him and that I will be his girlfriend.
After we had a talk last weekend he told me that he was going to
dump her. When I saw him this weekend he said he didn't dump
her yet. He wants to but he's too chicken, and he thinks I won't
like the sex.
Now I'm so upset...almost as upset as I was when he told me about
her almost 2 months ago.
I need someone to be my email buddy to help get me through this
if anyone is interested.

There's plenty of people here on the board that can offer you help and support. We try to do more of a group effort here, you post and the members reply back on the board :) Sometimes-- actually, all the time -- it's better to have more than one person to go to.
As far as what to do about your friend, honestly if he really truly wanted to leave his girlfriend for you now, he would. He really really would, ask any man and he'll tell you the same. Guys just aren't that complicated. I don't put much stock in tears during conversations like that, they're very often a diversion. The fact that he hasn't left her tells me it's not just sex he wants from her. I don't know that I'd be able to take someone who came to me and told me this, that they were tossing me up with someone else, seeing who landed on their feet. Be careful here, you two have had nine years -- nine of them-- to get this worked out between you, so there's a reason he hasn't been able to step up to the plate in all that time. What makes you think he can do it now?
Good luck and welcome to the board,
Welcome to the board sparklesnowangel,
He's not worth it.
He has been asking me to be his g/f for nine years.
He even talked about marrying me.
At first I just wasn't interested in him
like that, but then I gradually started having feelings of love.
The longer I hung out with him the more I loved him.
I know he loves me because he doesn't lie and I know him.
I was so angry when he told me that he hasn't dumped her
yet after we had a talk and he said he would.
He knows that I don't like sex so much.
Would a guy choose sex over love?
I feel a little bit better now.