i need an ending relationship guide!!!!!

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Registered: 03-21-2006
i need an ending relationship guide!!!!!
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 10:01am

ok, my problem is basically i dont know how to let my boyfriend go. We've been dating for about 2 years in July and i've been getting these things where i want other guys. We broke up about a few days ago, but got back together. I was telling him that they were just feelings and i'd be back, but im not sure that "being back" is really what i want. I know i love him, and i know he loves me, but im not sure if i want to be in a realationship with "him" anymore. But i just dont know how to let him go without telling him i want him back, to letting him go and him begging to come back. i need like simple rules and regs. that i can follow to tell myself i dont want him back, everything will be ok, and your life will be normal again. I know its a heartache because ending a 2 year relationship is always a heartache, but im going to be 18 in about a week, and my license in exactly a week. I dont want to be pressured into not being able to go out, and do what i want and hang out w/who i want, and i have friends that may want rides that he doesn't like and i dont want him to be mad because they're my friends and im giving them a ride. its a big time jealiousy factor out of this that im trying to get rid of also, i just basically need guidelines on how to end it and stay away.

please please please!!!!!!!! help me out

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Registered: 01-31-2006
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 5:51pm

i dont think that you really want to let go of this person like you mention you guys broke up and get back again. coz for my own opinion if you really dont want to be with the person you will never go back with him. just a friendly reminder dont do such thing that later you will regret and for your KARMA SAKE. YOU HAVE TO LET GO OF THE PERSON IF YOU THINK YOU WANT SOMEONE ELSE ATLEAST BE HONEST....BELIEVE ME DEAR IF THIS THING HIT YOU BACK. IT WILL HURT TONS TIME WHAT YOU DID WITH THIS PERSON. I KNOW YOUR VERY YOUNG AND ENJOY YOUR LIFE. BUT DONT EVER PLAY WITH SOMEONE FEELINGS ITS NOT VERY GOOD!!!

GOOD LUCK

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 04-01-2006 - 11:10am

mizzinddependant...

THIS ONE IS EASY.....at least for Pianoguy!

Tell the man that since you're headed for college (or the exciting challenge of learning a new profession)...."MY MOM & DAD suggest that I don't become attached to any man in particular!"

Keep the friendship if you want to....but emphasize (again and again) that personal changes are beginning to happen for you....and at the ripe old age of 18....YOU WANT TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF ALL OF THEM! This includes the possibility of dating others.

Your b/f won't be thrilled by the news...."but he'll survive!"

Pianoguy