I need to give him back his stuff.......
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I need to give him back his stuff.......
| Thu, 11-30-2006 - 10:32pm |
I am about 3 weeks post break-up (my choice) with a slight minor setback last weekend with some emotional emails. I still have some of his things that he wants back. Should I avoid seeing him and just take them to his house and leave them on the back deck and send an email telling him where they are? That kind of seems like the weeny way out. Should I drop them off on my way to work some morning (he lives about 4 blocks from me), or call him and tell him to come get them???

I agree!
I mailed my ex his stuff & all the gifts he gave me, even though he didn't want it back. I requested he drop my stuff on the front porch which he did while I was at work.
Message was very clear: I don't want to see you and I don't want your stuff.
Made me feel so much stronger to call the shots since he did the breakup!
It is so hard with him living so close to me. I have had to alter my route to and from work so that I don't drive right by his house. A couple of weeks ago I was coming home from a friend's house after 11 on Sat night, and drove by his house. There was a car in the driveway parked between his and his son's trucks. His son doesn't have much company, so I assumed he probably had female company over watching tv. It may not have been but it bothered me to think he would have someone over so soon. That's when I changed my route and even though its a little out of my way, I don't go by his house anymore.
I suppose I will just put his stuff in my car and drop it off when no one's home. I can get about a block away and see his driveway, so if he's home I'll just go the other way. I know he wants to see me and doesn't understand why I won't see him or talk to him since the breakup was my idea. I am a very emotional person and just because it was my choice doesn't mean I don't still feel the pain. I'll just email him and tell him he wasn't home so I dropped it off. I feel like a weeny, but I'm afraid seeing him will just be painful for us both. He wants to be friends, but its too soon for us to be just friends.