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| Sat, 03-10-2007 - 7:32am |
Hey... I really don't know what to say about what happened to me recently. I didn't see it coming, and it hit me right in the face. So, yes, my boyfriend left me (happens to all of us) but I find it really strange the way things happened. Our relationship was "young" to say so ( we've been together for 4months and half) and it was also long distance. We talked every day, on phone, messenger, texts, webcam..everything. We sent letters to one another, we had our song, we even wrote a poem toghether. It was so amazing because whenever I felt terrible, he knew it and texted me saying: "I can feel you're upset", I also knew when he was having hard or good times... :) we just felt it. We knew everything that happened with one another. Everything was going great, he always told me such beautiful things, his friends were telling me they never saw him so happy... At the beggining of this week we both felt kind of low...I guess I felt what was going to happen, I somehow felt that sthg was wrong, although he kept saying he loves me and stuff. So 4 days ago, he decided to break up with me. He ended the relationship just like that, through a text. He said he can't be happy like this, and that he wants me to be happy because I am a special girl. He also mentioned that he is actually in love with someone else, and that he realised he was lying to himself with me. I couldn't and still can't believe this is real... I mean, you say everything is ok, and then you go just like that? He now wants to be good friends..he texts me, to see how I'm doing, he keeps saying he can't be happy if I am sad,that he ment every thing he ever said to me (but if he did, why did he leave me?), that he is so sorry for what he did to me. I litterally can't eat, I cried, I still cry, and now my doctor said I may have appendicitis from stress and emotional shock. I feel very ill (both physically and emotional), and I really don't know what to do. He is coming over to my house on April, with some project we're working on (together with some other countries; he's also not from my country). I want to have him over, I don't have any grudges, but I don't know what to do in order to not be obvious about my feelings. My friends say it's only because of the distance and that after we'll see eachother, everything will be alright again. But idk if that can be... I will be in his city in may and june , and from september i will be moving there, because it's the place I always wanted to live and study in. I don't want to leave my dreams for him, so I can't consider not moving there... He still calls me names like he used to (the same names) when we were together... he still texts, beeps, calls.. do you think it's all over? I'm really so confused.. and I really love him... HELP!

Hi pinky8919 and welcome to the board.
I'm trying to catch up on posts that have gotten missed, so sorry for the delay.
Four months isn't very long into a relationship and adding the long distance into the mix, makes it even more difficult.
::He also mentioned that he is actually in love with someone else, and that he realised he was lying to himself with me. I couldn't and still can't believe this is real... I mean, you say everything is ok, and then you go just like that?
Most people when they first meet put their best foot forward so to speak.