I never see my question

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Registered: 03-25-2003
I never see my question
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Tue, 06-12-2007 - 6:53pm

I'll try again, but my questions never make the board
I have a what I like to call friend with benefits, we make plans and follow thru
and we have talked about moving in together in the future. Yes, we have crossed that line
and the last year has been great.
I know he does not see anyone else, nor do I.
Yet, when some one mentions the fact that we are a couple somtimes he seys no we are not.
again, he still acts like we are a couple and everyone in our group relates to that.
Sometimes even him. Breaking it off is out of the question. I need some good advise and a little bit of game know how with out being dirty

Thanks smitty and stupid crazy about him

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 10:27pm

Hi smittenkitten,


Well, sounds like he's happy with the relationship the way it is - the benefits without the responsiblities of a relationship, hence his comments 'we aren't a couple'.


There is no trick or game to make someone want more. Either they do or they don't.


Good luck to you.




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Registered: 09-24-2003
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:59am

Why would you want to waste your time with someone who has one foot out the door and won't acknowledge you as his girlfriend? And why is breaking it off out of the question? Instead of wasting time hoping he'll come around and accepting whatever crumbs he throws your way find someone who really wants to be with you.

I also suggest you read the book "He's Just Not That Into You."