I officially did it

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Registered: 09-15-2006
I officially did it
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Fri, 07-27-2007 - 11:09am
I am just writing for a bit of validation. I knew that I needed to fully and completely break things off with my boyfriend, and I did it last night. I am pretty sure he hates me, and he said some pretty alarming things about how he has nothing to live for, that I ruined all of his plans, etc. I am just trying to stay strong and not call, but it hurts so bad....I just needed to vent.
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Registered: 06-22-2006
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 11:25am

Knowing what you've written about your ex-boyfriend, about the stalking, the spying, the emotional and verbal abuse, all I have to say about his "alarming comments" is he's full of crap. It's just another tactic to control you and your behavior. Don't fall for it, stay strong.

Write out all the horrible things he's done like installing spyware on your computer so he can break into your email, stalking you, ruining your vacation with your friends, all the manic and psychotic behavior he's displayed, write it all down and every time you feel weak, pull that list out again and read it. The feeling will always pass, you just have to wait it out.

You've taken an amazing step in taking back control over your own life, and I'm really very proud of you! It's hard, and I do understand that, but it will be all worth it, you'll see.

Stay strong and focused and post here whenever you need to,

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Registered: 09-15-2006
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 11:37am
Thank you so much for the support. I am getting a new phone number and probably a large amount of junk food...then hopefully I will be in a better place soon.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 1:22pm

Hi,


Consider the book: In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing With Manipulative People by George K. Simon


My best to you.