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I posted last week...
| Sat, 01-22-2005 - 10:19pm |
Hi, everyone.
I posted last week about breaking up with my boyfriend of 15 months on the count of him meeting another woman while he was away for Christmas and not telling me about it. Well, most days this week have been okay. I get a little bit weepy at night in my apartment, but the days are fine and normal and things at work are good, too. Yesterday I didn't cry at all--I didn't even want to. But tonight--it's hitting me hard. I found out that he is planning on going back to West Virginia and seeing this girl, next weekend. This kills me. And I do mean KILLS. I am so sad about the thought of him touching or kissing anyone else. I don't understand how, with all of the many memories that I have with him that he could so quickly go back there and be with her. And then, I am also thinking, "how can he even be attracted to her?" As I am a 24 year old orchestra teacher with a college degree, financially independent, etc., and she is an 18 year old college freshman who depends on her parents. I don't understand. I am really hurt and missing him at the same time. I'm not a psycho or the kind of girl that would call him crying about how much I miss him, but I DO. I MISS HIM. I have tried to get out and hang out with people to keep my mind off of things, but I can't be with people all the time, nor do I want to. I hate to sound so pathetic, but I'm sure someone out there understands. Please help me. Tonight has been the hardest night since the breakup for me. And that's saying a lot.
I posted last week about breaking up with my boyfriend of 15 months on the count of him meeting another woman while he was away for Christmas and not telling me about it. Well, most days this week have been okay. I get a little bit weepy at night in my apartment, but the days are fine and normal and things at work are good, too. Yesterday I didn't cry at all--I didn't even want to. But tonight--it's hitting me hard. I found out that he is planning on going back to West Virginia and seeing this girl, next weekend. This kills me. And I do mean KILLS. I am so sad about the thought of him touching or kissing anyone else. I don't understand how, with all of the many memories that I have with him that he could so quickly go back there and be with her. And then, I am also thinking, "how can he even be attracted to her?" As I am a 24 year old orchestra teacher with a college degree, financially independent, etc., and she is an 18 year old college freshman who depends on her parents. I don't understand. I am really hurt and missing him at the same time. I'm not a psycho or the kind of girl that would call him crying about how much I miss him, but I DO. I MISS HIM. I have tried to get out and hang out with people to keep my mind off of things, but I can't be with people all the time, nor do I want to. I hate to sound so pathetic, but I'm sure someone out there understands. Please help me. Tonight has been the hardest night since the breakup for me. And that's saying a lot.

No, it is not a good idea to contact your ex. You told him you wouldn't, and you shouldn't. It will just bring you more pain, believe me. I know it's difficult because he was probably your best friend...and I know that you want answers, especially when it comes to his new girl. But nothing he says will make you feel better...unless it's "I love you and want to get back together," and he backs up his words with his actions. Until then, the end results of what happened don't change. You guys still broke up, you know? You aren't ready to be his friend yet.
I know that the memories of all the good times you guys had together hurt right now...and you probably feel pretty confused, possibly angry. You have every right to feel this way. Just remember that it really DOES get better with time. Your breakup is pretty recent, and I know it sucks...but give it time and patience. Take care of yourself and see this as an opportunity to do the things that make YOU happy. You deserve better than settling for somebody who doesn't really want to be with you...and yes, I know the rejection hurts. But it doesn't mean that you are any less of a person; I am sure that you are just wonderful and have LOTS to offer. It's his loss, not yours. Things just didn't work out between you two, and it's painful/disappointing, etc...but it's life. Things happen for a reason.
Feel free to e-mail me anytime through this website, ok? <3