I really need your help more then ever

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2003
I really need your help more then ever
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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 9:17pm

The history:My ex-boyfriend and I were together for five years. In five years this will be the fourth time breaking up. I KNOW four times is too much! he is 29 I am 26


First break at ONE YEAR....I had a hard time moving on since we were engaged. I thought he was perfect and no matter who i spoke to they just didnt compare. At two months he came running back and of course not healed i took him back w/out thinking.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-22-2003
Tue, 03-18-2008 - 9:52pm

hi there. you came to the right board. i came here crying my eyes out and 1.5 months later I'm doing better.


What I got from your post was that you two are in love and love each other very much. But, you aren't two separate individuals who can stand on their own. Love can't work with two people like this.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 03-19-2008 - 12:01am

Welcome to the board redrose82,


Have you considered short term counseling to help you through this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-07-2008
Wed, 03-19-2008 - 9:22am

Relationships with commitment phobics are the worst! I feel your pain...I am going through something similar. Here are some things to read. It brought me some peace knowing that it wasn't me at all. He will prob never change.


Book:


He's Scared, She's Scared - by Steven Carter and Julia Sokol


Sites:


http://www.simplysolo.com/relationships/how_to_spot_a_commitment_phobic.html


http://breakups.com/commitmentphobia.html


http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=72399


iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2007
Wed, 03-19-2008 - 2:52pm

I have not been around lately.