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I sent an email...
| Tue, 11-09-2004 - 11:22pm |
My bf and I (well ex now) of over 3.5 years broke up on Oct 28th, and I haven't spoken with him since the 29th. We broke up because he said he couldn't give 100 percent to the relationship right now and couldn't promise he wouldn't hurt me again (breaking plans with me, not spending time with me..) So I sent him an email tonight that said:
I thought of your today- actually because my sister asked if you'd be joining for thanksgiving. Anyway, just thought i'd make my presence known and say hi. hope life is still going well without me. take care.
So tell me... really... How stupid am i?

BUT, the BEST thing you can do - is let it cool down right now and do your ABSOLUTE best NOT to contact him anymore.
For me, when I use to send those notes, or pages to his pager (that is how long ago it's been) I would tell myself "oh I don't care if he responds, I just want him to know I am thinking about him". BUT the truth of the matter was, I wanted SOME type of response - no matter what it was - I just wanted SOME form of contact! It hurt 10 times more when I realized he didn't respond at all.
So I say let it go for now. If you want to send another email - send it to yourself, or to a fake email account. DO NOT send him any more messages!
Don't be down on yourself that you did it - like I said - we ALL have done that (or are doing it.) Just try extra hard not to do it again!! :)
Best of luck!!! :)
Denise
YEA!!!!!!!!!!
That is a sign - just remember that!
Another thing I did when I wanted to contact my ex that helped was to have a list with me AT ALL TIMES that had everything he did to me that hurt me on it. It could have been as small as "he didn't call me back when he said" to as big as "he un-invited me to his brother's wedding!"
When I felt the need to call - I pulled the list out and reminded myself WHY he did not deserve to hear my voice or read my pages!!!
Give it a try - it was a life saver! :)