I should have known better

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Registered: 09-12-2005
I should have known better
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Fri, 06-08-2007 - 10:49am
So I got back together with my ex who broke up with me, then we got back together only to have him do it again 3 weeks later. So after 1 month of not talking, we got back together on Tuesday. Well last night, he dumped me again.... He said that he's not an emotional man. He only wants someone to have sex with and hang out with sometimes. He said that his work is his #1 priority. And he said that he was happy with how we were but that it would stay that way and never progress into anything more. He said that he wanted to stay with me but not to expect anything lifelong with him. I got upset over his comments, we talked and he broke up with me. I am so upset. I am in love with this man and he claimed to be in love with me (before last night happened).... but what happened last night is unforgivable right now. I guess he's been playing stupid games with me. I feel like a fool. Last night was the third time. How could I be so blind and allow this to happen again? It really does not feel good to have so much rejection from one man...
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Registered: 04-30-2006
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 11:31am
I'm sorry he did that to you. :( At least he told you the truth though, he didnt lead you on to believe that something serious would happen between you too and he didnt do it like a year or more into the relationship.. Either you can let him go and date other people, or you can stick around to see if things will change down the road. Good luck.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 11:43am

Hi sonny,


You were/are in love that doesn't make you a fool.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 12:40pm

sonny0027...

If you don't mind a little honesty...PG would like to provide some?

When a man or a woman is treated poorly by a partner the first time around...it's a good indication that the same sort of treatment will CONTINUE should they ever "reunite?"

It's pretty easy for anybody to use the phrase: "I've changed...and am not longer selfish!" But the only way to HONESTLY KNOW is to observe his (or her) behavior.

So if S-E-X is the primary reason for getting back together, it's a safe bet that 'once the deed is done a few times'---the partner who wanted to "GET REUNITED" will move in a different direction?

Don't get me wrong...there ARE former couples who seriously LOVE each other and want to get back together. But to quote a pop country tune from a group that calls themselves ORLEANS---"Love Takes Time!"

Pianoguy