I slipped...........
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I slipped...........
| Wed, 03-15-2006 - 8:20pm |
Ok, I'm human and slipped and sent ex? a very short email telling her now much I have been missing her. Also told her how important she was to me during out 6-7 months together. I know I shouldn't have but did it anyways.
We spent almost every day together during that time.
I miss her so much.

I hear you on that. A few days ago I did the same thing. I have been writing emails for a while and saving them, but my mind went blank for a minute and I hit send instead of save and wanted to kick myself. Then I read over the email that was sent and realized that although I didn't mean to send it, I still wanted my ex to know how I felt. So I guess it was just meant to be sent. There were no replies to my email, but in love you take your chances...right? No regrets and you shouldn't feel too bad about it either. Its not the end of the world, we can't always be tough all the time when feelings are involved. Just as long as it doesn't become a habit, then it would become annoying and obsessive.
bozo63
PLEASE DON'T BE HARD ON YOURSELF.....
I know exactly how you must be feeling as I had a weak moment last week and contacted my ex, luckily he didn't pick up!!! I beat myself up for a couple of days, but now I think so what !! I have done it and can't change it. It is really hard sometimes as I think you miss their freindship and someone to talk to, but you have to keep reminding yourself why you split !!!
Keep strong - it was just a minor setback. You will feel ok again in a couple of days I promise x
This is another big thing for me ....Maybe I'm making too much out of it ?
I still have some clothes at her place.
As stupid as it sounds I feel that as long as they are still there (maybe she's thrown them out?!?Who knows?) That there is still some sort of connection us? Is this making any sense?
She did give ME the option of taking them with me or leaving them there just last week when had our "TALK".I left them. A big part of me is thinking that maybe she feels the same about my stuff being there.......meaning, if I were to pick them up. Things would really be over. Period.
Since she works only half days it would be very easy for her to drop them off at my place while I'm at work. She hasn't done that, Yet...
Whats your thoughts ladies? I"m having a real tough day today, Its been a week today since we talked/saw each other.
for my own opinion she doesnt what you to get hurt by telling you take your staff.. so she ask you if you what to bring it or not. but dont used your clothes as a excused, for you to talk to her again. it will never look good for you.
anywayss you mention that you email her..did she reply? actually maybe i'm assuming she not a computer person like checking email all the times..is she?
Yes she replied....
said in an email that "she misses me too" and "could we be friends?" .."thats all she can do right now"
Sounds like we're done. Thought?
I wouldn't say you're necessarily "done." Sounds like she wants to keep the possibility open but right now she's not ready. She may never be ready and you have to prepare for that. As for her still having your stuff (that was you, right?), I just think that's a way for both of you to keep that door open, that need for future contact. As long as you have something there, you'll never really have closure. When you're ready for closure, you'll ask for it.
Steph
I feel where you're coming from, and don't worry about the slip as long as it's not frequent (as in every week) it will be okay.
In regards to your stuff..I think people put to much emphasis on *stuff*. Unless the things you have there are worth alot of money or have something particularly special about them I would forget about it for now. People use stuff as leverage, and it can make you look desperate. I once had an ex calling me just to get back a $10.00 sweatshirt. It sounds heartless, but it got annoying. In turn the same ex had a bag of mine, but I didn't go get it because I felt like he was using that bag as a way to get to see me. The bag can be replaced you know? It's not worth the ackward feelings I would have felt by seeing him when I wasn't ready to.
I know people think of cleaning out the closest and getting rid of everything that reminds them of the ex as closure. That makes sense, but how do you get closure if you have to see that ex in order to give the stuff back? I say leave it alone for now. She's probably not bringing the stuff to you because it's either not a priority or she's not ready to see you yet. Just because she keeps it around does not neccessarily mean that she is keeping a flame burning. But I might be wrong..this is just my silly opinion.
Hope it works out for you..hang in there!!
Take care,
=)
Thanks Steph, I read and re-read your reply.
This stalemate over the clothes.....not sure if its good or bad but for the time being I'll probally leave them. Time and space to figure things out, Both of us. I dont want to myself to make OR FORCE her to make any hasty lasting decisions.
Time...to a certain point.