I SOOO want to confront the jerk
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| Sun, 06-17-2007 - 6:27pm |
Hi all,
Ok - a little background. The ex dumped me at the end of April. It was the second time we broke up, and this time it is for good. I was devastated. He wanted to remain friends, and I told him that it just wasn't possible right now. I needed time to move on. He was incredibly condescending when we broke up, telling me we were on different levels and that he was "really mature" for his age, which is a complete joke. So I haven't spoken to him since we broke up, which has made him angry. I heard through the grapevine (from 2 very reliable sources) that he is saying that I am being a child because I don't want him in my life. He has SUCH NERVE! He broke up with me! Doesn't he get it?!?! He pretty much treated me like crap during the relationship...put everyone else ahead of me, was a TOTAL mamma's boy, talked crap about me WHILE we were dating, told his friends personal things about our relationship, etc. And now I hear he is saying bad things about me. He has NO RIGHT to. I was a great girlfriend to him...very supportive and loving. I'm mad at myself too, because I put up with his crap for SO long. And now, my friend is having a goodbye BBQ next week, and he is invited. I was told that he said, "she's going to be really quiet and nervous because I will be there." I am seething with rage. He thinks he is the end all, be all. He talks sh*t about everyone, including all of his friends. He is condescending, judgmental, and arrogant. He has an ENORMOUS ego and thinks he is superior to everyone. Of course everything I heard has given me some kind of closure. I know it is truly a BLESSING that he dumped me. I never, ever want him back. I know confronting him will not do any good...he thinks he can do no wrong, so there is NO POINT. Because it annoys me to no end that he thinks he is perfect, and continues to spew complete garbage about me after he dumped me. He has no class. I have never said anything negative about him to anyone, even after he dumped me. When I see him at this bbq I want to completely ignore him because he makes me ill, but I know he will get a rise out of that. I hope I am not nervous when I see him.
He has such an ego and makes me ill. I should be grateful he's out of my life...and I am. It's almost like i want to say to him, "here is everything you did wrong. you are such a jerk!!!" I know it'll get me nowhere. I have a journal and have written "letters" to him that I never send. I don't want him saying negative things about me. I'm this close to writing an eff you letter...**SCREAM!!!!**
hehe...sorry everyone. needed to vent once again. thanks for reading. any advice would be appreciated.

I'd go to the party and have an AMAZING time having FUN. Since he's said you'll be quiet and whatnot just because he's around, I think you need to show him just how much he DOESN'T affect you. Don't go overboard, just have fun. The less you play into his stupid games, the more roses you come up smelling like. Do not, under any circumstances, let him "take you aside" to talk, you have zero time for that and for him.
Good luck!