I still can't eat...
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I still can't eat...
| Mon, 01-08-2007 - 3:05pm |
Maybe some of you have some suggestions? It's been a week since the break up and I still cannot manage to swallow anything. I've lost 11.5 pounds. Not that it doesn't feel good when my pants fall down... lol
Anyhow. I tried a smoothie today thinking that it might help. I don't feel hungry. My tummy isn't rumbling or anything and it's scaring me a lot. I started at the smoothie but just couldn't get it past my lips. My favorite food is bacon and the smell of it this morning gagged me.
this is ridiculous. Not sleeping is bad enough, but now eating too?
any ideas?

Not eating is not taking care of yourself and right now you should be taking even better care of you. Are you not able to keep food down or are you just not interested in eating? If you can't keep it down it may be time to see the doctor. If you are not hungry then maybe a little mind over matter is in order. Try eating something even if you don't feel like it. As far as sleeping, a mild over the counter sedative may help, but if the problem persists you may need to ask a doctor about giving you something to help you sleep. Start doing small things to take care of yourself, like warm baths and candles or indulging in a guilty pleasure (like buying a new outfit) Of course make sure you do not go overboard (all things in moderation).
Hugs,
YG
YG
http://twodatediva.blogspot.com/
Really I guess it's a bit of both. Today has been a good day until now. I look good, I came to work, I dressed up and even wore makeup which is something I rarely do. I was in a good mood and high spirits... then I started to realize that he hasn't called. He hasn't emailed. I want NC... but I miss him so much that it's killing me.
So, I tried eating some broth but I keep throwing it up over and over. Normally, I don't react badly to stress... not like this. I like food, good food. I don't eat a lot of junk or snacks. And, I thought maybe jello... broth... even chocolate would be something. I had a peppermint lifesaver today. Somehow I just want to eat. I WANT to be hungry. I WANT to be TIRED. I want to sleep.
Maybe I haven't cried enough and I need some more of that to get him out of my system?
It's just SO hard. I'm just so heartbroken. Now I understand why old people are said to sometimes die of broken hearts. I know this won't kill me... but it's not helping me to feel very strong right now.
It seems like you are still in shock from the break up. You mayneed to see your doctor and tell him/her what happened. He/She may give you and RX to get you over the hump. Counseling would also be a good idea to help talk out your anger and frustration.
YG
YG
http://twodatediva.blogspot.com/
Thanks
I'm eating! I've gained a pound and I'm sleeping...
Here's the trick... I guess it is anyhow. Smile. Don't spend so much time thinking about the bad, think about the good in your life. Share your wisdom, do something nice for someone just because it feels right. Even if that person is yourself.
Personally... I will tell you that NC is nearly impossible for us because this break up is more like a divorce than a reg. breakup... and we didn't live together. But, as we put away our details... the contact becomes less frequent.
I know tonight that he is hurting. He is hurting a LOT. And, as his friend it is painful to know that. But being dumped wasn't on my priority list for the year, and so I need to just maintain as little contact as possible with this man, who I will deeply love and admire for the rest of my life; just differently.
The further away from the break up I get... the more I begin to realize that this is good for me. And, I don't think that we will ever reconcile. The funny thing is that our relationship was GOOD. But... we really are nothing more than the best of friends.
I'm sorry you are hurting, believe me I understand. But you will come out ok, I know... you hear that all the time and you're so frustrated and tired of people telling you that.
Take it one day at a time. One breath at a time if you have to.
And, love yourself. Forgiveness is the key to happiness...
Contact me anytime :)
I know exactly what you are going through and I went through the same thing right after my breakup last year. What helped me eat, is to go out with friends or family members to my favorite eating places. I found that being surrounded by the ones who truly love me at resturants that I loved going to helped get my appetite back and my mind of my ex. It's being alone that destroyed my appetite. I also have a 6 year old daughter so we would cook meals together and eat together without the TV on.
In regards to sleeping, this will take some time but what helped me was getting up at 5:15 every morning and running on my treadmill while I watched a funny movie (stay away from the romance movies, they will just bring you down). By the time 10:00 rolled around that evening, I was sleeping like a baby. Excerise does wonders for the appetite and helps you sleep better. I would recommend that over drugs anyday.
Good luck and I do wish you the best during this difficult time. We have all been through this and are here to help.
Thanks :)
I cannot believe that I found this board. While I knew from experience that I was not the only one who has ever gone through this, I needed to SEE it again I guess.
I am eating again, and I have been going out with friends as much as possible (with three kids!!) and hanging out with my kids. I wish I had a treadmill, because I think that it would be great for stres relief. I did almost get up and go to the gym today, but the not eating caught up with me and I'm now not feeling very well over all.
I too, prefer to turn to exercise and friends before drugs. I don't normally take aspirin. I have been taking the meds prescribed by the doctor, however only when ABSOLUTELY needed. For example, I've been waking at 3 am shaking all over and frightened. That has NEVER happened before. I take a hot shower, put on some classical music and try to meditate to calm myself. If that isn't working, I take 1 of the pills. I've only not been able to do it myself a few times.
Not spending any time with C. has helped, although because he's my friend and he's hurting I just want to give him a huge hug. I don't hate him. But, I do intend to move on with my life.
Today I thought would be harder than it has been so far... I think I'm going to make it!
Thanks so much for your encouragement :)