I stood up for myself!
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I stood up for myself!
| Tue, 03-04-2008 - 6:13pm |
My ex has been making contact with me and wanting me to come over.. I stood up for myself and asked him if the only reason he invited me over was for sex. He flipped out. He got so upset that I would think that of him... Well, we both have a Myspace and he and I had kept our status to "in a relationship" and I decided to make mine single and took his pictures down. He again, flipped out. He acted like I broke up with him! He was the one that wanted space and to break up! He was the one who didn't know what he wanted. I dont understand why he got so upset when he was the one who started all of this? Any ideas?
-Court

having been through a few of these types of breakups. or at least one that I learned alot from... he is upset because he isnt' having his cake and eating it too. basically, you took away random hookups with no emotional work or stress. He's kinda "hurt" in his own way. Basically, he's thinking "how could she do this to me"?
I agree with you 100%! Thank you for your support. To answer your question, I do want him back, but I want change. On both of our ends, we need to have some issues resolved. I love him and I have fought for him, but now I am trying to give myself some strength. Standing up for what I believe in, and if he doesn't want that then I will know that it wasn't meant to be. After our little scuffle the other night he actually contacted me today, just to "catch up" and I was really short with him and just kept it as a friendly conversation. He later asked me if I wanted to come over and take a nap before I had to make my commute home. I said that I was already on my way home and that he should have mentioned something earlier. I am done with playing games. He was the one who wanted his space and to have independence. So If he wants me, he has to come and get me. I am no longer going to cater to him and give him what he wants. It feels really good to have found myself again. I have left it all in Gods hands and I am working on me. And I am so thankful that I found this, You have been a great help. :}
As for you, I think that you are just like me. I give great advice when someone needs it.. It is just following my own advice that is the problem!