I think I am my own worst enemy!
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I think I am my own worst enemy!
| Wed, 01-25-2006 - 11:16am |
When my long-distance relationship ended in November after he broke-up with me for another girl, I was so shocked and didn’t know how I would recover. I then began my cycles of NC. First, after the first week, he sent me an e-mail saying that he didn’t feel anything for this girl – it was only a passing feeling. I did NC again for a while and then I decided to talk with him 2 weeks ago. He admitted that he made a mistake and that he “freaked” out about the possibility of me moving to where he is (the plan was for this april) and that he really thinks we should work on seeing each other. I told him I agree but we should talk more first. He says these things and yet only calls me once a week (we used to talk every day!) – which I don’t feel is enough to make anything fixable. I also feel like he should be making much more of an effort (makes me feel like I did something wrong – not him). I know I should do NC and end it. I just feel like such a wreck. I feel so weak...

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Thanks for listening!
I may have already read this earlier, but what did your man do in Nov. that he claimed was "rude"?
I wanted to talk to my guy since last Friday (I called him at work crying... I had just found out he was talking to another girl, long story). Since last Friday all I wanted to do was talk- how hard is that? Oh and believe me- there is one minute of time in their world to do this. My guy is truly super busy at work, but I have been at my job in the past too, and I have told him this. Even if I got out of work at 10:30/11:00 p.m., I could still call him on the way home or something. There's no excuse.
My friends have told me the same thing as you suggested- I just might not get a response from him. I have done the calling, emailing and he is only responding to light chit chat (cause he knows he's in the doghouse). So I know I have to carry on b/c I can't rely on him to respond.
I guess it's my start of 'NC' as they say on these boards... I have done it w/him before, it's just so hard.
Thanks for listening, too!
Oh...rude? We had a long-distance relationship for 1.5 years and I was planning to move to be with him this spring (based on his CONSTANT urging). I bought a ticket to be with him for x-mas and he wanted me to meet his parents (really hard for me because it would be the first x-mas away from my family). At the end of November, he called me to tell me he'd met someone else and she "could be the one." I told him "but I have a non-refundable ticket for x-mas." His response "Yeah I'm sorry about that." So, he messed with my holiday and my future plans. I was also not expecting him to start calling me again right away – and eventually send me an e-mail that he didn’t feel anything for this girl –it was only a passing feeling. Now I just feel like he's been messing with my head.
Oh... I didn't realize that there was another girl involved. No wonder he's being so difficult. Yes... I think NC is the only way to go (as he might not respond and for your own sanity). I know it's SO hard. I want to call and e-mail him EVERY DAY. I keep telling myself that I've put myself out there enough and if he wants to talk to me then he can make the effort -- and I'll then DECIDE if he deserves to reach ME. Always a struggle, though... hang in there!
Hi fun76, here is a link that does a pretty good job of explaining all the acronyms used on iVillage.
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