I think i am obsessed please help
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| Thu, 11-11-2004 - 3:12pm |
Almost a year ago I broke up with my boyfriend. We had dated for almost 2 years. The longest relationship I have ever had. A few weeks after we broke up I found out that I was pregnant. of course it was his. I made a decision not to keep the pregancy. ( please don't judge me for this. It was a very hard decision to make). When i first found out that i was pregnant i made a decision not to tell him because of his health. ( he is type 2 diabetic and his health is really bad.) About 2 weeks after the proceedure I was talking to him. And for one reason or another he had guessed that i was pregnant and he knew what I had done. Well for about a month he was hoping to get back together and move forward. At the time i was really messed up in the head and was not dealing very well with what I went through. I told him that I could not be with him. That it was extremly hard for me what I had done. He and continued to talk off and on.
Well about March I recieved an email from him. It said. "I'm getting married. B" I was in complete shock at the time that I wanted to throw up. That day I picked up the phone and called him to ask him why he would just email that to me. He just said that he was telling everyone. And that he knew her for 2 months and then he asked her to marry him. It been almost six months since I learned that. And every since that day i have been trying to find out who she is, what she looks like. Also ever since then I can't get him out of my head. I think of him constantly. i even have dreams about him.. How can I make my self stop obsessing about him??
Thanks for listening
lovelyleigh

Until you realize that nothing is wrong with you, that you are NOT LESS THAN, you will continue to feel this way. You will have to talk back to those negative feelings.
Carrie
my ex broke up with me 6 months ago, and two months ago he met someone new. they are now living together.
i find myself obsessing about him/them from getting out of bed to going back to bed. trying to find out all i can from friends. the constant dreams i have of me and him are driving me crazy!!
like you i question what i am feeling and why im doing this to myself. am i in love? did i ever really love him? was it just co-dependant? am i just obsessed cause he rejected me and more so now he has found a replacement? who knows? but i feel i need to know to stop this!!
not much help i know, but at least you know your not alone on this one. if you wanna talk sometime, i could give u my email. anyways, hope you find peace one day. take care.
tracy. xxx
I don't think i can call him to see if i can meet her. He ignores all of my emails i sent about a month after i found out that he was getting married. I was trying to get my stuff from his place. I asked him to mail it, drop it by, i even offered for my cousin to come pick it up. Nothing.. No response.
I recently moved back to my home town. trying to face the things i ran from when i was younger. He was working for a company here in my home town. And shortly he followed me here. Now i am scared to run into him and his new fiance. (I know why but that is another story)
I feel like knowing who she is and seeing him with her may bring some sort of closure to all that i am seeking. I guess what makes it worse is that i have not dated anyone since him. From everything that happened earlier this year I don't feel emotionally ready. Plus have not found anyone worth dating.
If you want u can email me at junebug891@msn.com if you feel like talking. I know I do from time to time.
thanks
lovleyleigh
When i first found out that he was getting married to someone else. I felt betrayed. He had told me after the ab that he would be there for me. And I guess about the time he met her he stopped having all contact with me. So i wanted to get even. I signed him up for the "Nut of the month club". Because he was nuts to get engaged that fast. He never knew it was from me...HA.
I just so hard to stop obsessing about him. But i am trying to work on it.