I think it's finally final

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2006
I think it's finally final
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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 12:52am

I finally made up my mind to leave. We will stay together in the house for some time to get it ready to sell, and then I will leave.

just announcing, cause I need to.

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Registered: 07-05-2007
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 12:25pm
I think it's final over between my boyfriend and I as well. We will have to live in the same house together for some time because our lease isn't up until December. We could pay to get out of it but I can't afford all of it and he can't afford to pay his half. I'm new to i village and I really don't know what went wrong with your relationships and was just hoping to find someone to talk to about mine. My friends aren't crazy about my boyfriend so I don't like to go to them with my problems. Our problems is that we fight all the time and he doesn't have the ability to be upset with me with saying very hateful things. I been thinking about this for a while (ending things but just didn't know how to go about it.) It looks like my approach so far has been to stop all communication. Usually after a night of fighting and going to sleep in separate rooms he or myself either call each other the next morning and try to make up. I just don't think I can deal with it anymore and I have to move on. I know it's going to be hard but I have made up my mind to take things one day at a time. I hope all works at for you let me know if you ever want someone to talk or vent to.
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Registered: 05-11-2006
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 5:13pm

I have been coming to the realization for the last 2 or more years that I do not love my husband. I asked for a separation last Sept. and agreed to try to make it work. We've argued, made up, gone to counceling, and argued and made up and it all just seems to be wrong to me. I don't know how to feel differently than I do. I told my H that I still don't have the feelings that I need or want in our M.

I stayed in our M for so long, I think, because of the kids. they are now 17, 18 and 20. I do not feel the need to stay in this relationship without love anymore.

But this is SSOOOOOO hard. I don't like feeling guilty for hurting my H - or my kids. (they still don't know) I don't like havening to put our mutual friends through the discomfort. and I'm scared. I'm not a kid any more and I don't have the years ahead to be bubbly about starting over - but I do feel that it is the right thing to do, and I am hopeful and have had strong faith my whole life that I will be ok, no matter what. I do want to start a new type of life than what I've had. It feels right and relaxing - albeit, scary and confusing also right now.

I wish you much luck and strength in doing what is right for you. It is a hard thing to come to.

thanks for the response!!
S