I thought I was nearly over him but...
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| Thu, 08-16-2007 - 7:19am |
I broke up with my boyfriend almost a month ago. I thought I was doing really well these past few days, until today.
A friend of mine told me yesterday that there was a For Sale outside his house so I checked the internet when I came into work today and sure enough I saw his house on there for sale. This has really upset me and I don't know why.
The thing is I know he's not moving away (maybe it would be better if he did). I knew he had only bought the house as an investment. He had said to me when we were together that he was thinking about selling it and moving to a nicer house out of town. It's just that when he told me his plans I was part of them.. he was always asking me to move in with him but I wanted to take things slow. Anyway, I guess that's why it hurts now because I see he is moving on without me.
We have had no contact whatsover in almost four weeks so I thought I was nearly over him and now I see that I'm not at all. I have to keep reminding myself how he treated me towards the end of the relationship and the way that he broke up with me, he was really horrible to me. But even after everything that's happened, why do I find myself missing him and still wanting to be with him??
Thanks for listening. xx

Well, unless your relationship was only a couple months long, there's no way that less than a month of no contact is going to be enough to be over someone.
Now that you've had this indirect contact, that will set you back a bit. You might ask your friends to not give you updates on him.
It's normal to grieve even a bad relationship. Make a list of all the bad things so you can read it over when the passage of time starts to give the past a (false) rosy glow.
Sheri
Hi Sheri,
Just wanna say thanks for your reply and sound advice which I will take on board. Feeling a bit better today than I was yesterday.
Cheers. x