i thought it was the right thing to do

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Registered: 03-29-2006
i thought it was the right thing to do
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 7:36pm
I was with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half, and after enduring lots of ups and downs and excessive fighting, he decided we needed a "break." A break in his opinion meant still sleeping with me and hanging out with me, but talking to me less and having the option of seeing other people. For two months neither of us saw anyone else, and I had been working so hard on fixing our problems that were caused by me. And though we had some really nice times during this period, something was not there with him, and he kept re-iterating that we ARE still on a break, and he wants to see other people. I couldn't take that idea, so a broke up with him a week ago. Now I'm a mess, especially since he called me today, since he's in a show on Saturday that I said I would go see. I just keep thinking about how much of my life is missing. I cry every night when I go to sleep, and truly believe that we can be happy together. I know I should be wanting advice for getting over him, but I more so want advice for how to cope until we get back together. I know I can never find anyone like him, and now I'm the one who ended it and I regret it. Just dont know what to do.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 10:22pm

::and truly believe that we can be happy together.

Happy with someone that "kept re-iterating that we ARE still on a break, and he wants to see other people"

I don't think so. I know you are grieving and sad, but you two aren't on the same page. Hopefully someone else will offer you some advice.


Carrie

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 10:04am

taratimbs...

Pianoguy always believed that a break meant: NO CONTACT WHATSOEVER WITH ANOTHER PERSON?

Obviously your b/f had a different definition? .

One idea and 2 questions:

1. Attend the show with a girlfriend. This way the 2 of you can 'gracefully leave' when you're ready.

2. How can 2 people be happy in a relationship when they argue most of the time?

3. How many problems ARE REALLY BEING SOLVED as the result of all the crying you're doing?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 03-23-2006
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 10:12am
Don't sell yourself so short like that. The guy has everything he wants: someone to sleep with whenever it is convenient to him... with no strings attached. Get out of this relationship fast. You will be the one hurting in the end. You deserve better. Don't let anyone tell you different!