i want to ask for a 2nd chance.SHUD I?

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Registered: 04-02-2007
i want to ask for a 2nd chance.SHUD I?
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Sun, 04-08-2007 - 2:15am

i am 15.yea i know a little young
but need advice.

i was with my boyfriend for 2 months starting in dec.ending in mid feb.he and i met at a school dance.we danced then made out in the end..and i tryed in effort to try and find out how i culd get in touch with him again.he goes to a coed school and i go to an all girls school

i felt as if things went too fast
our second date we were already in my bed

he and i didnt get to see each other
and it felt like we had to be each other's top priority
he got involved in school...and i was almost failing school because is was what u can call madly in love.
but then he said he was failing a class
and i told him the same thing.
i said we shud take a break
then he told me he was grounded after we got back together after our week and a half break.
then we stopped talking.
i dont think we ever officially ended it
in my gut i feel i still want to be with him
the reason i posted this up was b/c i culdnt get him off my mind and lately i have just been thinking alot about him

i really really want a second chance with him but i dont know if it is worth it.
i dont know what to do and i dont know why but im really anxious and dunno why.
please help me make a decision...
shoud i ask him if he could give US a second chance or leave it??

HELP PLEASE

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Sun, 04-08-2007 - 3:23am

I'm sorry this situation with your boyfriend got confusing, when things start out too fast, what usually happens is that as soon as the relationship hits even a slightly rocky patch, like yours did because of you both doing badly in school, the relationship starts to fall apart quickly and easily because it hasn't had time to develop a strong foundation of friendship and trust. Remember that-- good relationships start out with a strong foundation of friendship and trust.

Ok, so you're still kinda young and starting out, essentially, but I'm going to lay it to you straight, woman-to-woman: Don't be the one to ask the man for a reconciliation or another chance unless you're the one who's done something horribly wrong or damaging to your relationship to make it fall apart. Because when you do that, you go into the reconciliation, the "back together," in a postion where you don't have much power. I'm not talking about control over the relationship, I'm talking about the respect in it. That's the other very important part of relationships between people, the respect they show each other and themselves.

So show some respect for yourself and don't be the one to ask him for another chance. Let's get you learnign some good relationship and self-esteem habits: Keep living your life, enjoy your activiites and friends, get your responsibilities like your schoolwork under control, and let things take their natural course. If he's the right boyfriend for you, it'll work itself out and he'll be the one to come talking to you.

Best,

~~.: Sandra :.~~


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